How to Last Longer in Bed

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The success of a relationship depends on a lot of factors: communication, trust, variety, fun, and — yup — the sex. It’s something that’s often on the collective minds of many couples: wishing they had more of it, dreaming of ways to spice it up…wanting it to last just a little longer.


What makes for truly mind-blowing sex is up for discussion — and varies wildly from couple to couple. Some can’t get enough of super-vanilla missionary position…and others have a sex dungeon in the basement that no one knows about. What we do know is that men and women have very specific ideas about how long they’d like sex to last — and the dream is, in large part, much different from reality.


A much-cited informal survey by Fox News health contributor Keith Ablow in 2007 discovered that 80 percent of men and women supposedly wanted sex to last at least 30 minutes.


A study published in a 2005 issue of Journal of Sexual Medicine, however, found that the median length of heterosexual intercourse was just 5.4 minutes.


The perfect length of a sack session is clearly up for debate — we can’t even all agree on when to start the timer! Does it start when foreplay begins? When the penis meets the vagina? Some other time? One thing’s clear: Both partners should be satisfied after a roll in the hay.

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Methods for Lasting Longer in Bed

We’ve researched hundreds of methods for lasting longer in bed. Using some of our favorite techniques, you can learn how to last longer in bed, for men who suffer from premature ejaculation (PE) – like the millions of men around the world (up to 30% of the global male population), now you can last longer too.


Don’t let your fear of overcoming PE become a self-fulfilling prophecy. So, what are our favorite ways to extend your love-making time?


Using a Delay Spray

Desensitizing products have been proven effective. Sprays have minimal side effects and are available without a prescription. Look for high-quality products that have an absorption formula that enables you to maintain great sensation while mostly eliminating transference to your partner.


Some sprays on the market, however, will simply numb you. Promescent, on the other hand, offers gentle, targeted desensitization with minimal loss of sexual feeling — and it won’t transfer to your partner. (There’s even a scientific study about the effectiveness of Promescent making it North America’s one and only clinically proven Delay Spray).


More Foreplay

A slow build-up of stimulation will allow you to last longer. And that starts with foreplay. By starting with various forms of foreplay, you allow your penis to adapt to a slow increase in stimulation, so when it’s time for intercourse, your penis is going from 45 to 60, not from zero to 60.

Different Sex Positions

Certain sexual positions can help men delay orgasm, specifically those that reduce penetration depth or apply more pressure on the top side of the penis. Here are some basic positions that can help you last longer — without the need for a Kama Sutra or a contortionist partner.

  • Woman on top

  • Reverse cowgirl (a variation of woman on top where she faces away from you — yee-haw!)

  • Spooning (lying side by side)

  • Perpendicular (pressing the top side of the penis against the vulva)

  • Modified doggy-style (when the woman is lying on her belly instead of on her knees)


Masturbation and Edging Techniques

Plenty of men have tried masturbating before sex, as well as behavioral therapies broadly known as edging, to “train” themselves to last longer in bed. Are you one of them?


Here’s a look at how these techniques work.


Masturbation

If you’ve ever had sex again shortly after your last roll in the hay, you may have noticed how long it took to reach orgasm the second time around. This period of recovery is known as the refractory period — and masturbating in the hours before you have sex has a similar effect.


Start-Stop Method

It’s simple, really: You get close to having an orgasm, and you stop to recover.


The mistake that most men make, however, is that they wait until they’re almost to orgasm — the point of no return — before stopping intercourse. The problem with this is that the closer you are to orgasm when you stop, the less stimulation you’ll need upon starting again before you orgasm.


The key is to stop and start in a planned way. You’ll probably find that, with each start/stop cycle, you’ll spend less time in the “stop” period and more time in the “start” period.


Squeeze Technique

From a pleasure point of view, this is our least favorite. But it’s effective for many men. And it’s exactly as the name implies. As you get closer to orgasm, you or your partner should squeeze your penis along the shaft until your desire to ejaculate goes away.


The bad news: Though these techniques can be effective in the moment, studies have not found definitively that they’re effective in “training” your body to last longer.


What About Premature Ejaculation Pills?

Doctor offering a pill to aid with premature ejaculation


For many years, doctors frequently prescribed selective serotonin reuptake inhibitors (SSRIs) for premature ejaculation. These drugs are actually indicated for patients with depression and anxiety, but one of the common side effects of SSRIs is delayed ejaculation — hence their off-label popularity.


But the list of side effects goes far beyond delayed ejaculation: drowsiness, dizziness, nausea, and even decreased libido and erectile dysfunction. Plus, SSRIs are taken daily — do you really want to be taking a pill every day? Dapoxetine, a fast-acting SSRI that’s taken as needed, is the only pill on the market that is actually shown to work in treating premature ejaculation — but it’s not FDA-approved in the United States.


Other pills (often called stamina pills) are often marketed with overblown claims — and no clinical data to back them up. If you’re considering taking a premature ejaculation pill, be sure to research medical data and studies and consult with your physician beforehand.


Closing The Orgasm Gap

At the very least, for both partners to be satisfied after sex, the experience should last long enough for both to climax. Sadly, this isn’t always the case.


While men take an average of 5.5 minutes to orgasm, women take much longer — up to 17 minutes. It’s called the orgasm gap. And while there’s a lot to unpack here around the sexual politics of this gap, we’re all about finding a solution.


Promescent Climax Control Spray delays ejaculation and gives you more orgasm control, helping you last longer during sex — and giving you a better chance at closing the dreaded orgasm gap.

Couple with low sex drive caused by premature ejaculation issues
Last As Long As She Does
Help close the orgasm gap with Promescent delay spray. Get the only clinically proven delay spray in North America delivered discreetly to your door.


But the physical act of lasting longer is only part of the equation: Longer sex can lead to increased intimacy, improved communication, and a healthier relationship with stronger emotional bonds. And what couple wouldn’t want that?




How To Last Longer In Bed

couple on bed seeking how to last longer in bed during sex

The success of a relationship depends on a lot of factors: communication, trust, variety, fun, and — yup — the sex. It’s something that’s often on the collective minds of many couples: wishing they had more of it, dreaming of ways to spice it up…wanting it to last just a little longer.


What makes for truly mind-blowing sex is up for discussion — and varies wildly from couple to couple. Some can’t get enough of super-vanilla missionary position…and others have a sex dungeon in the basement that no one knows about. What we do know is that men and women have very specific ideas about how long they’d like sex to last — and the dream is, in large part, much different from reality.


A much-cited informal survey by Fox News health contributor Keith Ablow in 2007 discovered that 80 percent of men and women supposedly wanted sex to last at least 30 minutes.


A study published in a 2005 issue of Journal of Sexual Medicine, however, found that the median length of heterosexual intercourse was just 5.4 minutes.


The perfect length of a sack session is clearly up for debate — we can’t even all agree on when to start the timer! Does it start when foreplay begins? When the penis meets the vagina? Some other time? One thing’s clear: Both partners should be satisfied after a roll in the hay.

Promescent home away climax control spray bundle
Try Promescent Delay Spray
Want to start lasting longer in bed? Give Promescent a shot and see instant results with our Urologist approved delay spray. No mess, no fuss - just better sex.

Methods for Lasting Longer in Bed

We’ve researched hundreds of methods for lasting longer in bed. Using some of our favorite techniques, you can learn how to last longer in bed, for men who suffer from premature ejaculation (PE) – like the millions of men around the world (up to 30% of the global male population), now you can last longer too.


Don’t let your fear of overcoming PE become a self-fulfilling prophecy. So, what are our favorite ways to extend your love-making time?


Using a Delay Spray

Desensitizing products have been proven effective. Sprays have minimal side effects and are available without a prescription. Look for high-quality products that have an absorption formula that enables you to maintain great sensation while mostly eliminating transference to your partner.


Some sprays on the market, however, will simply numb you. Promescent, on the other hand, offers gentle, targeted desensitization with minimal loss of sexual feeling — and it won’t transfer to your partner. (There’s even a scientific study about the effectiveness of Promescent making it North America’s one and only clinically proven Delay Spray).


More Foreplay

A slow build-up of stimulation will allow you to last longer. And that starts with foreplay. By starting with various forms of foreplay, you allow your penis to adapt to a slow increase in stimulation, so when it’s time for intercourse, your penis is going from 45 to 60, not from zero to 60.

Different Sex Positions

Certain sexual positions can help men delay orgasm, specifically those that reduce penetration depth or apply more pressure on the top side of the penis. Here are some basic positions that can help you last longer — without the need for a Kama Sutra or a contortionist partner.

  • Woman on top

  • Reverse cowgirl (a variation of woman on top where she faces away from you — yee-haw!)

  • Spooning (lying side by side)

  • Perpendicular (pressing the top side of the penis against the vulva)

  • Modified doggy-style (when the woman is lying on her belly instead of on her knees)


Masturbation and Edging Techniques

Plenty of men have tried masturbating before sex, as well as behavioral therapies broadly known as edging, to “train” themselves to last longer in bed. Are you one of them?


Here’s a look at how these techniques work.


Masturbation

If you’ve ever had sex again shortly after your last roll in the hay, you may have noticed how long it took to reach orgasm the second time around. This period of recovery is known as the refractory period — and masturbating in the hours before you have sex has a similar effect.


Start-Stop Method

It’s simple, really: You get close to having an orgasm, and you stop to recover.


The mistake that most men make, however, is that they wait until they’re almost to orgasm — the point of no return — before stopping intercourse. The problem with this is that the closer you are to orgasm when you stop, the less stimulation you’ll need upon starting again before you orgasm.


The key is to stop and start in a planned way. You’ll probably find that, with each start/stop cycle, you’ll spend less time in the “stop” period and more time in the “start” period.


Squeeze Technique

From a pleasure point of view, this is our least favorite. But it’s effective for many men. And it’s exactly as the name implies. As you get closer to orgasm, you or your partner should squeeze your penis along the shaft until your desire to ejaculate goes away.


The bad news: Though these techniques can be effective in the moment, studies have not found definitively that they’re effective in “training” your body to last longer.


What About Premature Ejaculation Pills?

Doctor offering a pill to aid with premature ejaculation


For many years, doctors frequently prescribed selective serotonin reuptake inhibitors (SSRIs) for premature ejaculation. These drugs are actually indicated for patients with depression and anxiety, but one of the common side effects of SSRIs is delayed ejaculation — hence their off-label popularity.


But the list of side effects goes far beyond delayed ejaculation: drowsiness, dizziness, nausea, and even decreased libido and erectile dysfunction. Plus, SSRIs are taken daily — do you really want to be taking a pill every day? Dapoxetine, a fast-acting SSRI that’s taken as needed, is the only pill on the market that is actually shown to work in treating premature ejaculation — but it’s not FDA-approved in the United States.


Other pills (often called stamina pills) are often marketed with overblown claims — and no clinical data to back them up. If you’re considering taking a premature ejaculation pill, be sure to research medical data and studies and consult with your physician beforehand.


Closing The Orgasm Gap

At the very least, for both partners to be satisfied after sex, the experience should last long enough for both to climax. Sadly, this isn’t always the case.


While men take an average of 5.5 minutes to orgasm, women take much longer — up to 17 minutes. It’s called the orgasm gap. And while there’s a lot to unpack here around the sexual politics of this gap, we’re all about finding a solution.


Promescent Climax Control Spray delays ejaculation and gives you more orgasm control, helping you last longer during sex — and giving you a better chance at closing the dreaded orgasm gap.

Couple with low sex drive caused by premature ejaculation issues
Last As Long As She Does
Help close the orgasm gap with Promescent delay spray. Get the only clinically proven delay spray in North America delivered discreetly to your door.


But the physical act of lasting longer is only part of the equation: Longer sex can lead to increased intimacy, improved communication, and a healthier relationship with stronger emotional bonds. And what couple wouldn’t want that?




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