Last Longer In Bed
Last Longer In Bed
All men want to be great lovers and the most important factor is providing pleasure to his partner. For women, that typically means long-lasting sexual intercourse and, ideally achieving orgasm. In a survey published by Men's Health, women were asked "What is most likely to prevent you from having an orgasm?" the second highest response was "my partner doesn't last long enough."
How Long is Long Enough?
Cosmopolitan magazine polled over 2,500 women and asked them how long they preferred sex to last. Specifically, they asked about the length of intercourse, typically defined as the time from initial penetration to completion (when the man ejaculates).
Here are the results:
- Less than 1% said they prefer to cap the time at three minutes
- Slightly more than 20% prefer to cap it at 10 minutes.
- 70% said at least 10 minutes - which is almost twice the average!
- The most common answer was "15-25 minutes"
With the average man taking just over five minutes to reach ejaculation, women clearly want men to last longer - on average about three times longer!
In a survey of 30,000 men, Cosmo asked the following question: What is the ideal time for a longer sack session? Assuming a "sack session" includes foreplay, men on average expect a sexual encounter to last roughly 35-40 minutes.
Based on more scientific polls of how long men actually last before ejaculation (5-7 minutes), these times are wishful thinking for most men. Most women would agree that men aren't spending the other 30 minutes on foreplay! However, the survey shows that men want to have the control to last longer in bed when desired.
Is It Just About Time?
Most people talk about lasting longer but many men will tell you that it's more about having the freedom to enjoy any variation of sex without fear of ending it before you and your partner are ready. Couples want to explore new ways to give one another pleasure - different positions, oral, manual, maybe use of sex toys.
How Do Men Try to Last Longer in Bed?
Often men start with natrual methods: Distraction is common and still recommended by therapists. But it doesn't work for most men ... and who wants to think about their grandmother when having sex? Start / Stop is most common - but most men agree that it takes the joy away from sex. The squeeze method can work - but joy can turn to real displeasure.
When natural methods don't work (and they rarely do), most men turn to the safest and least expensive alternative - topical sprays and creams. These products have a long history of being effective - although most of them provide too much desensitizing effect.
The only pill that has been shown to be effective it dapoxetine, but it's not available in the U.S. Before considering a pill as a method to last longer during sex, read this about last longer pills.