While there are many factors that come in to play when talking about lasting longer in bed, one key dynamic is the sex positions you can use to help keep the fun going.
These sex positions will help you last longer and have more fun in the bedroom.
If you happen to be one of the one-in-three men between the ages of 18 and 59 that suffer from premature ejaculation, sex with a partner can carry an extra layer of anxiety.
- Will you reach orgasm too quickly?
- Will she be disappointed?
It feels like a crapshoot, except you're the only one doing the shooting.
Fortunately, there are desensitizing sprays like Promescent and exercises like the squeeze technique, Kegels, or the stop and start method that can make a difference, especially over time.
What many men don't realize, however, is that how you have sex can have just as big of an impact on how quickly you orgasm.
So, let's take a look at the 12 best sex positions that will help you last longer in bed.
Best Sex Positions to Last Longer
1: Cowgirl
How To Do It
Difficulty Rating: 1
To perform this position the penetrating partner should be lying on their back.
This allows your partner to mount you, straddle your hips, and insert your penis from an upright position.
They can the penetrating partner like a cowgirl riding a bull.
How It Helps
This sex positions requires the man to give up some control which has been shown to help many men perform better.
In this position the top partner has almost complete control over the speed and depth of penetration, denying the penetrating partner the opportunity to thrust too quickly or vigorously.
Make sure your partner knows to limit your pleasure and focus on her pleasure.
This will probably involve deep grinding and clitoral stimulation — the perfect break for your penis.
This is "Lazy Sex Exhibit: A." All you have to do is lie there during sex and let her do the work.
Your partner will love it because it puts her in control of the sex session making it easier for them to reach orgasm.
2: Spooning
How To Do It
Difficulty Rating: 2
Both partners lie on their sides, your front pressing against her back like the spooning cuddle position.
You're the big spoon, she the little spoon.
Your partner should separate her legs a little. Find her vagina with your hand, and enter her from behind.
How It Helps
The strokes available to you in this sex position will be very short, preventing you from making the long wild thrusts that push most men past the point of no return.
The short strokes target her G-spot, making it a great one for her.
Focus on grinding your hips against her butt, and try some clitoral stimulation with your fingers at the same time.
If you can bring her to orgasm, it's easier to feel good about your own orgasm whenever it happens.
Both of you are lying down, which you can do in your sleep.
However, getting the right angle can require a little hip manipulation, especially if your hips are differing widths.
3: Side By Side
How To Do It
Difficulty Rating: 3
This is similar to spooning, but the partners face each other.
Lying on your sides face to face, the receiving partner lifts their free leg and wraps it around the penetrating partners hip, giving your hips access to her vagina.
How It Helps
Both partners control how deep they thrust, resulting in a sex position that is both active and passive for both partners.
The man relinquishes some control, allowing him to focus on sensations while limiting how much he can thrust.
You're still lying down, so you won't have to tap out or anything. The challenge here is coordinating your thrusts and working as a team.
4: The Yab-Yum
How To Do It
Difficulty Rating: 7
The man sits on the bed or the floor, and the woman straddles his hips, facing him, allowing him to enter her from the front.
How It Helps
This position has the advantage of being hard to maintain.
The man can't thrust indiscriminately while holding himself up and his partner in position.
It's a very intimate position, great for pleasing the receiving partner and getting feedback from their reactions.
This position is awkward to maintain, especially if you have tight hamstrings or hips.
If you can't touch your toes, you might find yourself having to prop yourself up on your hands or tuck your legs if you can't extend them fully.
Either way, this position teeters on the verge of collapse.
5: Non-Penetrative Missionary
How To Do It
Difficulty Rating: 2
Lie on top of the receiving partner as with the normal missionary positions, but do not penetrate her. Instead, rub the back of the penis against her vulva, clitoris, and perineum.
How It Helps
Most people never think to try this form of "outercourse," but it can be a godsend for men who cum too quickly.
There's still a lot of wetness and warmth, but the sensation is focused on the less sensitive back of the penis, not the front of the shaft and the head, where the most orgasmic stimulation comes from.
She loves it because she can grind against the shaft providing clitoral stimulation.
Most men can find a form of missionary sex that they can easily maintain, regardless of their fitness and flexibility.
6: The Cross
How To Do It
Difficulty Rating: 2
Sorry for the flashbacks, those of you who went to Catholic school, but this has nothing to do with that.
It involves the penetrating partner lying on their side and the receiving partner lying on their back, their torso at a 90-degree angle to the penetrating partners torso, her legs draped over your hips, her butt exposed to the front of your pelvis.
Thrust forward and enter her with your hips against the back of her thighs.
How It Helps
There's not much range of motion for you to go nuts within this position, nor is it easy to thrust uncontrollably when your hips are at rest.
The angles available here are really versatile, and lying on your side is the opposite of strenuous.
7: The Lazy Dog
How To Do It
Difficulty Rating: 4
Doggy style is usually an "end-of-sex" thing because with the man in control of the thrusting, depth, and momentum on his side (plus a great view), it's nearly impossible to last long.
Prone rear-entry is a twist on doggy style that involves both of you lying down, you on top of her.
Think of it as missionary with your partner flipped over or spooning rotated face-down.
How It Helps
The depth of thrust available to you is greatly reduced, allowing you the fun of doggy style without the intense stimulation.
Figuring out where to put your knees is a challenge, and getting her hips at the right angle to your hips for you to actually enter her.
Most women keep their hips lower than they need to be.
8: Woman On Top
How To Do It
Difficulty Rating: 1
Similar to cowgirl, the woman climbs on top of you but lies chest to chest, like an inverted missionary position.
How It Helps
This position allows the woman to envelop the penis deeply while restricting his ability to thrust.
She can enjoy the deep sense of fullness and can grind her clit against your shaft without the vigorous thrusting that causes you to lose control.
She's in charge, so make sure to communicate with her if you are getting close and need a break.
Another chance to just chill on your back and let her do the work.
9: Sit On The Throne
How To Do It
Difficulty Rating: 1
For this positions the penetrating partner should sit on a chair and have the top partner with their back facing you, then lower into a seated position on your lap, inserting your penis as she does so.
How It Helps
The woman has control and will usually grind against your hips, enjoying the deep penetration without long or fast thrusts.
She might bounce a little, but she gets enough squats at the gym.
If you can sit in a chair, you can do this position.
10: Grinding Missionary
How To Do It
Difficulty Rating: 2
Missionary is one of the easiest positions to lose control of because you're doing all the thrusting and have access to deep penetration.
Grinding missionary flips the position on its head by requiring you to thrust your penis deep and leave it there, grinding your hips against hers.
How It Helps
Without the long, intense thrusts, it's easier to keep your penis from being overstimulated.
Meanwhile, your partner will love the front-action grinding. It rubs her clit while filling her vagina fully.
Most men know how to do some form of missionary, which is no different.
11: The Standing Ovation
How To Do It
Difficulty Rating: 4
Find a nice comfy pillow she wouldn’t mind laying on. Make sure the pillow is near the bottom of her back.
This sex position requires him to stand facing her and towards the bed or table.
How It Helps
This position offers deep penetration and intimacy, and he has the option to thrust fast or slow, which also creates a great opportunity to take a break if needed.
This position greatly benefits her as the pillow will lift her pelvis slightly, allowing for deeper penetration and the opportunity to target her G-spot more effectively.
Positioning and getting used to the pillow may take a minute or two, but everything else is smooth sailing once that is comfortable and in the right place.
12: Raised Kneeling
How To Do It
Difficulty Rating: 5
Your partner lies on her back, as in the missionary position, with her legs splayed. You kneel upright, entering her missionary style from a perpendicular position.
How It Helps
The penetrating partner cannot thrust as deeply from this position or with as much force as you don't have the leverage of your free hips.
You are also in control and free to dial it back if things get too intense.
Moreover, the tension required to maintain the kneeling position can distract you from your pleasure just enough to delay orgasm.
Maintaining this kneeling position can be strenuous. You may delay orgasm, but this position can be hard to maintain.
How Some Sex Positions Help You Last Longer
Many men are basic creatures. They know two or three sexual positions, and that's it.
What men who experience premature ejaculation don't realize is that some sexual positions can actually help them last longer, for a number of reasons:
- They don't allow as long or as deep of a thrust, preventing you from becoming overstimulated.
- They don't rely on thrusting or penetration at all, limiting how fast you become aroused.
- They are difficult to perform, so your attention is on maintaining the position rather than the sensations in your penis.
- They put you in the driver's seat, allowing you to control how much stimulation you receive and keep you from sailing over the edge.
- They prioritize her pleasure, which usually involves less vigorous thrusting than you think.
Note: Men who learn more about their sexual repertoire become better lovers overall.
By learning the best positions for him to last longer he becomes much less boring in bed and not limited to the same two positions.
Women appreciate the opportunity to discover new sensations. Never knowing what to expect from you in bed can be exciting.
Switching Positions
Switching positions during sex is a total porn star move that women love — it adds variety and spices up your sex life.
For men with premature ejaculation, switching positions has a whole different implication — the opportunity for a break if you feel the big finish approaching.
This article gave you twelve new sex positions to play with that should not only help you last longer but should help improve sexual intimacy.
It may be tempting to go nuts, switching positions every 30 seconds to delay your orgasm while showing your partner what a stud you are.
Slow your roll!
Women love variety, but they also love the chance to relax into a position and discover the sensations it has in store for them.
If you switch positions too frequently, she may feel like a prop in your own private sexual decathlon.
By all means, switch it up, but control yourself. Four or five positions in a sex session are plenty.
On Fitness
Some of these positions require flexibility or even physical strength to maintain.
This is as good a time as any to remind you that your overall physical health impacts your sexual health.
Consider going to the gym if you have been putting it off.
If you do work out, consider adding more lower body stretching to help you stay in these positions long enough to make an impression.
On Pleasing Her
Studies show that roughly 50% women never reach orgasm from intercourse alone, relying on sex toys, hands, and tongues to get her there or at least mostly there.
This is great news for guys with PE.
Be the guy who listens to the pleas of countless women.
Go for broke on foreplay with things like:
- Kissing
- Fingering
- Nipple play
- Oral sex
If you can bring your partner to climax before penetration even happens, how fast you cum will make far less of an impact on how you both feel about your sex life.
Buy yourself time by focusing on her!
Then you never have to worry about whether or not you are good in bed.
You can then focus on delaying your orgasm for your own sake, not just hers.
To Wrap Up
It's important to keep in mind that this is not a complete list. There are several positions meant to enhance sex in many different ways. The 12 sex positions listed above, is just a great place to get started, but feel free to expand your horizons.
Women like when you try different sex positions. It feels new and adventurous and helps them reach orgasm easier and increase intimacy.
It also can provide better stimulation for her during sex.
And sure finding a sex position that works for both of you may be challenging, but trust us, it will totally be worth it in the end.
Just try to keep fitness and strength in mind as some of the more advanced positions will require both. If that's a concern then just try sticking to the basics at first:
- Cowgirl
- Spooning
- Girl on top
These will be a good test to see if they will help you prolong intercourse.
And if not, there are plenty of solutions out there like Promescent.
Learn more about how you can treat premature ejaculation with this “In the Bedroom" video with Dr. Laura Berman, a leader in sexual medicine, from the Oprah Winfrey Network (OWN).
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