Is There Therapy to Cure Premature Ejaculation?

couple at sex therapy discussing premature ejaculation and ways to last longer

Can Therapy Cure Premature Ejaculation?

In a 2016 issue of Translational Andrology and Urology, Stanley Althof, executive director of the Center for Marital and Sexual Health of South Florida writes that psychological treatment for men and couples living with premature ejaculation are focused not just on sexual skills and techniques but also self-esteem, performance anxiety and interpersonal conflict.

In other words, while a sex therapist can’t cure your premature ejaculation outright, they will be able to work with you through the psychological ramifications of your premature ejaculation and create a more fulfilling sex life for yourself, whether you’re in a committed relationship or single.

Is Premature Ejaculation Psychological? 

So, is PE “all in your head”? In a word, no!

Experts don’t actually know what causes premature ejaculation, but it could be related to several factors, some of them psychological and many of them physiological. With nearly 30% of men worldwide living with premature ejaculation, it’s not surprising that there isn’t a single cause.

We do know one thing, though: Even if PE isn’t purely caused by psychological factors, it sure as hell can create some psychological unrest.

A review published in 2015 in Australian Family Physician mentioned several negative effects of premature ejaculation, including “psychological distress, diminished self-esteem, anxiety, erectile dysfunction, reduced libido, and poor interpersonal relationships.”

But if you’re here, you probably don’t have to be told that.

How to Build Sexual Confidence

Whether you seek therapy for it or not, a big part of seeking solutions for PE isn’t just to increase the amount of time it takes you to ejaculate, but also to get that elusive mojo back.

And for many men, sex therapy (or any type of therapy, to be honest) is a last resort. So how can you build your confidence in bed back up to its pre-PE levels without setting foot in a doctor’s office? Every man is different, of course, and every couple even more so.

Try an over-the-counter product

Over-the-counter male delay sprays like Promescent can help extend the amount of time it takes you to reach orgasm, and that’s certainly a start to help you build your confidence.

By the way, Promescent is clinically proven! In a study published in the International Journal of Impotence Research, 72.1% of participants cited that use of our product positively impacted their sexual experience.

Get back to basics

Sensate focus is a classic sex therapy technique, developed by Virginia Johnson Masters and William Masters in the 1960s. It helps couples focus on touch for the sake of touch — divorcing it from the goal-oriented context of sex and all the pressures associated with it.

Sensate focus uses a set of behavioral exercises done either alone or as a couple to enhance intimacy and connection.

According to Linda Weiner and Constance Avery-Clark, authors of Sensate Focus in Sex Therapy: The Illustrated Manual, sensate focus can be effective in increasing body awareness and comfort; building trust; slowing down the sexual interaction; and increase sexual desire.

Talk about it

Have a real conversation about what’s happening in the bedroom — but wait until you’re on neutral, preferably clothed ground to do so. The time to have a frank discussion about premature ejaculation and how it’s affecting your sex life is probably not when you’re trying to get in the mood or after you’ve ejaculated prematurely.

Go outside your comfort zone

Not feeling confident in bed? Lean into it!

Snag a copy of the Kama Sutra, or buy one of those wacky desk calendars with a new sexual position to try every day.

Rip yourselves out of your comfort zone and try something so ridiculous that you can’t help but laugh about it and forget what you were feeling so stressed out about. Laughter is the best medicine — Promescent is second best.

By the way, if you’re the sexual partner of a man who’s feeling down about his PE (frowning men, look away! This isn’t for you) there’s plenty you can do to boost your man’s confidence in bed:

  • Focus on other aspects of your sex life. Penis-to-vagina intercourse isn’t the end-all-be-all of sex, friends.

  • Tell him how good he makes you feel. Don’t fake it — listen, everyone knows when you’re faking it, even the neighbors — but find ways to show your appreciation for the stuff that feels fabulous in bed. Tell him during the act and after the fact.

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Trying Therapy? Here's What to Expect

You’ll know when it’s time to seek professional help — and remember, there’s no shame in going to counseling.

Every counselor has a variety of methodologies they might consult during treatment with clients, depending on each unique situation. During your session, you’ll be talking about the issue at hand, whether you’re focusing on premature ejaculation or another related issue.

But the work doesn’t stop when you leave your therapist’s office. (Like we said, a therapist isn’t going to magically cure your PE.)

Here’s some of the “homework” you might receive for when you head home between sessions.

Behavioral therapies

Sensate focus, mentioned above, was developed during the same era as a couple of other techniques that are very popular among men trying to cure their premature ejaculation: edging and the squeeze technique.

And while sensate focus alone will not cure your premature ejaculation, it might help bring you closer to your partner if assigned as homework.

Edging and the squeeze technique, on the other hand (heh), operate under the assumption that the penis — or, rather, the man attached to it — can be trained to recognize when it’s nearing orgasm and employs various methods to pull back in order to slow the ejaculation response.

However, in a 2015 issue of The Journal of Sexual Medicine, researchers reported “limited evidence” that these behavioral techniques offered permanent improvement for PE, so these techniques may be falling out of favor with sex therapists in treating premature ejaculation.

Communication skills

Gah, that communication thing again! Listen, nobody likes to talk about premature ejaculation (or much of anything related to sex…we’d rather just do it).

But your therapist (and common sense) will tell you that learning how to communicate about your sexual issues and shortcomings (or fast-comings, as it were) can allow you to work as a couple to find other routes to mutual sexual bliss.

What Sex Therapists don't do

Finally, let’s establish what will never happen in a sex therapist’s office: sex.

Sex therapy isn’t physical training for your relationship, and sessions will never involve physical contact of any type: not between you and your partner (should you decide to go to sessions with your partner), not between you and your therapist.

That may seem obvious, but if a single person reads this article who thought they were going to sex therapy to have sex … Well, our work here is done. (Also, if things start to go down that road in any sex therapy session, please run the other way and get your local ethics body on speed dial. That’s not what’s supposed to happen!)

Promescent and Sex Therapy: A Match made in Heaven

Stanley Althof’s study, published in Translational Andrology and Urology, concludes that combining other treatments with sex therapy is the most effective course of action — more effective than the other treatments alone.

That’s because with therapy, according to the study, “men and couples learn sexual skills and address the intrapsychic, interpersonal and cognitive issues that precipitate and maintain the dysfunction.”

A guest author on the Promescent blog can attest to that: introducing our patented eutectic product to his own “homework” from his sex therapy sessions helped him feel much more successful in his treatment. Read about his experience.

Then, grab yourself a bottle of Promescent, find a certified sex therapist in your area, and get ready to go to work. You’re worth it!

Therapy To Cure PE

couple at sex therapy discussing premature ejaculation and ways to last longer

Can Therapy Cure Premature Ejaculation?

In a 2016 issue of Translational Andrology and Urology, Stanley Althof, executive director of the Center for Marital and Sexual Health of South Florida writes that psychological treatment for men and couples living with premature ejaculation are focused not just on sexual skills and techniques but also self-esteem, performance anxiety and interpersonal conflict.

In other words, while a sex therapist can’t cure your premature ejaculation outright, they will be able to work with you through the psychological ramifications of your premature ejaculation and create a more fulfilling sex life for yourself, whether you’re in a committed relationship or single.

Is Premature Ejaculation Psychological? 

So, is PE “all in your head”? In a word, no!

Experts don’t actually know what causes premature ejaculation, but it could be related to several factors, some of them psychological and many of them physiological. With nearly 30% of men worldwide living with premature ejaculation, it’s not surprising that there isn’t a single cause.

We do know one thing, though: Even if PE isn’t purely caused by psychological factors, it sure as hell can create some psychological unrest.

A review published in 2015 in Australian Family Physician mentioned several negative effects of premature ejaculation, including “psychological distress, diminished self-esteem, anxiety, erectile dysfunction, reduced libido, and poor interpersonal relationships.”

But if you’re here, you probably don’t have to be told that.

How to Build Sexual Confidence

Whether you seek therapy for it or not, a big part of seeking solutions for PE isn’t just to increase the amount of time it takes you to ejaculate, but also to get that elusive mojo back.

And for many men, sex therapy (or any type of therapy, to be honest) is a last resort. So how can you build your confidence in bed back up to its pre-PE levels without setting foot in a doctor’s office? Every man is different, of course, and every couple even more so.

Try an over-the-counter product

Over-the-counter male delay sprays like Promescent can help extend the amount of time it takes you to reach orgasm, and that’s certainly a start to help you build your confidence.

By the way, Promescent is clinically proven! In a study published in the International Journal of Impotence Research, 72.1% of participants cited that use of our product positively impacted their sexual experience.

Get back to basics

Sensate focus is a classic sex therapy technique, developed by Virginia Johnson Masters and William Masters in the 1960s. It helps couples focus on touch for the sake of touch — divorcing it from the goal-oriented context of sex and all the pressures associated with it.

Sensate focus uses a set of behavioral exercises done either alone or as a couple to enhance intimacy and connection.

According to Linda Weiner and Constance Avery-Clark, authors of Sensate Focus in Sex Therapy: The Illustrated Manual, sensate focus can be effective in increasing body awareness and comfort; building trust; slowing down the sexual interaction; and increase sexual desire.

Talk about it

Have a real conversation about what’s happening in the bedroom — but wait until you’re on neutral, preferably clothed ground to do so. The time to have a frank discussion about premature ejaculation and how it’s affecting your sex life is probably not when you’re trying to get in the mood or after you’ve ejaculated prematurely.

Go outside your comfort zone

Not feeling confident in bed? Lean into it!

Snag a copy of the Kama Sutra, or buy one of those wacky desk calendars with a new sexual position to try every day.

Rip yourselves out of your comfort zone and try something so ridiculous that you can’t help but laugh about it and forget what you were feeling so stressed out about. Laughter is the best medicine — Promescent is second best.

By the way, if you’re the sexual partner of a man who’s feeling down about his PE (frowning men, look away! This isn’t for you) there’s plenty you can do to boost your man’s confidence in bed:

  • Focus on other aspects of your sex life. Penis-to-vagina intercourse isn’t the end-all-be-all of sex, friends.

  • Tell him how good he makes you feel. Don’t fake it — listen, everyone knows when you’re faking it, even the neighbors — but find ways to show your appreciation for the stuff that feels fabulous in bed. Tell him during the act and after the fact.

    Promescent delay spray standard size bottle.
    Try Something New
    Get yourself a bottle of the Urologist recommended delay spray delivered to your door, discreetly. Clinically proven to help you last longer for more enjoyable, satisfying sex.

Trying Therapy? Here's What to Expect

You’ll know when it’s time to seek professional help — and remember, there’s no shame in going to counseling.

Every counselor has a variety of methodologies they might consult during treatment with clients, depending on each unique situation. During your session, you’ll be talking about the issue at hand, whether you’re focusing on premature ejaculation or another related issue.

But the work doesn’t stop when you leave your therapist’s office. (Like we said, a therapist isn’t going to magically cure your PE.)

Here’s some of the “homework” you might receive for when you head home between sessions.

Behavioral therapies

Sensate focus, mentioned above, was developed during the same era as a couple of other techniques that are very popular among men trying to cure their premature ejaculation: edging and the squeeze technique.

And while sensate focus alone will not cure your premature ejaculation, it might help bring you closer to your partner if assigned as homework.

Edging and the squeeze technique, on the other hand (heh), operate under the assumption that the penis — or, rather, the man attached to it — can be trained to recognize when it’s nearing orgasm and employs various methods to pull back in order to slow the ejaculation response.

However, in a 2015 issue of The Journal of Sexual Medicine, researchers reported “limited evidence” that these behavioral techniques offered permanent improvement for PE, so these techniques may be falling out of favor with sex therapists in treating premature ejaculation.

Communication skills

Gah, that communication thing again! Listen, nobody likes to talk about premature ejaculation (or much of anything related to sex…we’d rather just do it).

But your therapist (and common sense) will tell you that learning how to communicate about your sexual issues and shortcomings (or fast-comings, as it were) can allow you to work as a couple to find other routes to mutual sexual bliss.

What Sex Therapists don't do

Finally, let’s establish what will never happen in a sex therapist’s office: sex.

Sex therapy isn’t physical training for your relationship, and sessions will never involve physical contact of any type: not between you and your partner (should you decide to go to sessions with your partner), not between you and your therapist.

That may seem obvious, but if a single person reads this article who thought they were going to sex therapy to have sex … Well, our work here is done. (Also, if things start to go down that road in any sex therapy session, please run the other way and get your local ethics body on speed dial. That’s not what’s supposed to happen!)

Promescent and Sex Therapy: A Match made in Heaven

Stanley Althof’s study, published in Translational Andrology and Urology, concludes that combining other treatments with sex therapy is the most effective course of action — more effective than the other treatments alone.

That’s because with therapy, according to the study, “men and couples learn sexual skills and address the intrapsychic, interpersonal and cognitive issues that precipitate and maintain the dysfunction.”

A guest author on the Promescent blog can attest to that: introducing our patented eutectic product to his own “homework” from his sex therapy sessions helped him feel much more successful in his treatment. Read about his experience.

Then, grab yourself a bottle of Promescent, find a certified sex therapist in your area, and get ready to go to work. You’re worth it!

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