What Does it Mean When a Guy Cums Fast?

Dr. Laurence Levine
Expert in male sexual health, leading Urologist in USA Dr. Laurence Levine
Last updated 12/18/2023
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I've been seeing this new guy and everything's been awesome, except for one kinda awkward issue. He finishes super fast when we're getting intimate. Like, really quickly. I'm just trying to figure out what's up.

I've seen stuff about premature ejaculation online, but I don't know if that's what we're dealing with or if it's something else.

Is his finishing fast a physical thing on his end, or could it be that he's just not that into me? Are there treatments or tricks to help him last longer, or will it just go away as time goes on?

While many people can find this topic too awkward to discuss openly, seeking expert insight can help. Let's take a deeper look into why some guys ejaculate fast.

Is He Physically Affected or Just Not That Into Me?

Finishing quickly is often not a sign that a man isn't into his partner. Premature ejaculation is commonly a physical issue, although psychological factors can also play a role.

Stress, excitement, or even performance anxiety can contribute to the problem. So partners should not jump to conclusions about his feelings based on this alone.

Is This Premature Ejaculation?

Premature ejaculation is when a man ejaculates sooner than he desires. Some common signs of PE include:

  • Consistently ejaculating within 1 to 3 minutes or less after penetration
  • An inability to delay ejaculation during sex
  • Avoiding sexual intimacy due to feeling frustrated

Are There Treatments for PE?

There are several options available to help treat this issue:

  1. Mindful Techniques: Strategies like the "pause-and-resume" or the "squeeze" method can be useful in delaying ejaculation.
  2. Over-the-Counter Solutions: Desensitizing sprays or creams with ingredients like lidocaine can help by reducing sensitivity. Benzocaine wipes have also been shown to be effective in delaying ejaculation.
  3. Exercises and Behavioral Techniques: Exercises like Kegels can improve pelvic floor strength allowing for more climax control. Other activities such as running and yoga have also proven helpful improving time to ejaculation.
  4. PE Pills: Some prescription medications can be effective, but this would require a healthcare provider's consultation.
  5. Sex Therapy: For a personalized, comprehensive strategy, it might be beneficial to consult a sex therapist.


Opening dialogue is the first step towards finding an effective solution. Partners should have a candid discussion about the issue and think about seeking specialized medical advice. A urologist or sex therapist can tailor a plan to a specific person’s needs.

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