18 Tips on How to Last Longer In Bed

This handy guide will show you exactly how to last longer in bed.

Board certified Urologist specializing in sexual health
by Dr. Faysal Yafi 23 min read
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Wondering how to last longer in bed? Don’t worry; we’ve got you covered.

Up to 75% of men have dealt with premature ejaculation at some time in their life. In this guide, we’ll discuss everything you need to know on how to last longer in bed:

  • Exercises & Behavioral Techniques
  • Sex Positions (including illustrations)
  • Climax control products (sprays, creams, etc.)
  • Foreplay techniques
  • Sex toys and apps designed to increase stamina
  • Supplements (including possible risks)

The average ejaculation time is said to be 5 to 7 minutes. The Urology Care Foundation defines premature ejaculation as being when ejaculation happens sooner than a man or his partner desires.

How To Last Longer in Bed

If you feel you're missing the mark, or just want to go a little longer, here's how to get started.

Exercises & Behavioral Techniques

1. Practice edging

Difficulty level

610

Effectiveness
Timeline

15 days

 

Edging Technique Instructions

Edging is when sexual intercourse gets to a point near ejaculation, and then all sex stimulation is stopped until the feeling has passed.

Research has shown this method to be somewhat effective in delaying ejaculation.

Be sure to talk to your partner about it beforehand. If you just suddenly stop thrusting in the middle of sex, this could be highly frustrating for your female partner.

Work together to devise a way to continue the pleasure for your partner. One possibility could be if you momentarily pull out during sex, you can use your fingers to stimulate her clitoris until you’re ready to penetrate again.

That way, she won’t lose her sexual momentum during your pause.

2. Try the Squeeze Technique

Difficulty level

810

Effectiveness
Timeline

5 sessions

Performing the squeeze technique

The squeeze technique involves stopping intercourse right as a man reaches climax, and squeezing the end of the penis between the shaft and head.

After a man has gone back to pre-climax levels, penetration can be resumed.

3. Masturbate Prior to Sex

Difficulty level

110

Effectiveness
Timeline

10minutes

 

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Masturbating a few hours before sex may help you not ejaculate as quickly during intercourse.

Researchers note it may not work for older men because of the increase in refractory time as men age.

It's important to know how long it takes for you to recover in order to effectively use this method.

 

4. Practice Kegel Exercises

Difficulty level

610

Effectiveness
Timeline

45days

One medically recommended way to improve how long you last in bed is through strengthening your pelvic floor muscles.

When the pelvic floor muscles are weak, it is more challenging to control premature ejaculation.

By strengthening your pelvic floor muscles, you’ll have better control over when you climax during intimacy.

You also won’t feel so much at the mercy of the moment.

How to do Kegels for Premature Ejaculation

Male kegels to last longer

Here are some quick and easy Kegel exercises to help you last longer in bed.

Find the Correct Muscles: Your pelvic floor muscles are the same ones that allow you to stop urination flow in midstream. Once you find the pelvic floor muscles, you can do pelvic floor muscle exercises or Kegels in any position.

Practice Your Technique: Flex your pelvic floor muscles for three seconds, then rest for three seconds. After that, try doing this several times in a row.

Stay Focused: You want to avoid tightening other muscle groups surrounding the pelvic floor muscles when doing Kegels. It's important to breathe normally and try NOT to contract the muscles of your thighs, buttocks, and abdomen.

Get in Your Reps: It doesn’t take much time each day to strengthen your pelvic floor muscles. You should see progress if you can do at least three sets of 10 reps per day.

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