Jeff Abraham on Tom and Dan: The Story Behind Promescent and Lasting Longer
Hosted by Tom and Dan
On Corporate Time with Tom and Dan, Promescent CEO Jeff Abraham shares the company's origin story, the science behind its anti-transfer delay spray, and why premature ejaculation is far more common - and treatable - than most men realize.
On a recent episode of Corporate Time with Tom and Dan, the Orlando radio hosts welcomed a "Weird Job Wednesday" guest who turned out to have one of the most compelling stories in sexual wellness. Tom and Dan sat down with Jeff Abraham, CEO of Promescent, for a candid, funny, and surprisingly substantive conversation about premature ejaculation, the science of lasting longer, and why so few men are willing to talk about any of it.
An Unlikely Path to Sexual Wellness
Jeff Abraham did not set out to run a sexual wellness brand. As he told Tom and Dan, he sold a semiconductor engineering business and retired at 53 before a neighbor, friend, and physician changed his plans. That physician was Dr. Ron Gilbert, a Hoag Hospital urologist who had developed a product to help men last longer in bed and needed help bringing it to market.
The story carries real tragedy. Dr. Gilbert was murdered in 2013 in a case of mistaken identity, a loss that became the driving force behind Abraham's mission for the company.
"I made it my mission to give him a legacy and to make the company successful, to help provide for his family, because I knew I couldn't bring him back."
That sense of purpose still anchors the brand. Abraham noted that Dr. Gilbert's family continues to own a portion of the company, and that he credits the founder's formulation as the genius behind everything Promescent has become.
What Premature Ejaculation Actually Is
Premature ejaculation, or PE, is a recognized medical condition, not a character flaw. As Abraham explained, the clinical definition is narrow, but the need for help is much broader. He pointed to what physicians call the arousal gap: the difference between how long men and women typically need during intercourse.
"The average normal healthy adult male lasts five minutes and 42 seconds during penetration and thrusting. The average female without prior stimulation takes 18 minutes to achieve climax."
That gap, he argued, is why even healthy couples can benefit from tools that help close it. Leading medical sources agree that PE is the most common male sexual concern and is highly treatable. The Urology Care Foundation and Cleveland Clinic both describe PE as common and manageable with the right approach.
As Abraham noted on the show, roughly one in five men experience clinical premature ejaculation - and because so few talk about it, most have no idea how common it really is.
How the Delay Spray Works
Promescent's flagship product is a lidocaine-based delay spray, but Abraham was quick to explain why it differs from the numbing products men may have tried before. Traditional lidocaine and prilocaine products sit on the surface of the skin, which is why they often transfer to a partner and leave everyone numb.
"So when you apply it, it goes subdermal. It goes beneath the surface of the skin. So it sits in the fatty tissue underneath. That's what gives the man a much higher degree of surface sensitivity. It makes so it doesn't transfer to the female."
That anti-transfer design is the core differentiator. Rather than dulling sensation across the board, the formula is meant to absorb where it is applied so a man can last longer while both partners stay present. For readers who want the clinical background on treatment options, the Mayo Clinic offers a clear overview of causes and approaches.
Breaking the Silence Around PE
Much of the conversation circled back to stigma. Abraham described visiting retail stores and watching how people behaved in the sexual wellness aisle, hovering at a distance, snapping a photo, then grabbing the product and heading straight to self-checkout. The shame, he argued, is the real problem, not the condition itself.
He framed it the way he frames it for customers and physicians alike: this is a medical condition with physiological causes, and there is no reason to treat it differently from any other health issue.
"Would a diabetic ever be ashamed to take insulin? Would someone with cancer ever be ashamed to take chemo? The answer is no. This is a medical condition."
For Promescent, the business is largely about education and awareness, helping men understand that they are not alone and that effective, well-tested options exist. You can learn more about the condition and treatment approaches in Promescent's guide to premature ejaculation.
From One Product to a Full Sexual Wellness Brand
Promescent began with a single hero product and a loyal following. Over 14 years, Abraham expanded the lineup based on what customers asked for, starting with an organic aloe vera lubricant after men reported needing it once they were lasting longer. The brand later added supplements, arousal gels, and a line of vibrators.
The throughline, Abraham said, was trust. Customers told him that if a product appeared on the site, they assumed it met the same standard as the delay spray that built the company's reputation. That trust let Promescent grow from a premature ejaculation solution into a full sexual wellness brand carried in major national retailers.
Abraham also reframed the product as a performance enhancer rather than a fix for something broken, comparing it to the small edges elite athletes chase. His broader point landed with the hosts: when intimacy is good, the benefits ripple outward.
"When you're in a good relationship and you feel good and you feel confident and you're having good intimacy, colors are brighter. Music sounds clearer."
That confidence, he argued, is worth investing in. You can explore the full range of options at Promescent.
Watch the full episode on YouTube.
