If you happen to be one of the one-in-five men between the ages of 18 and 59 who suffers from premature ejaculation, sex with a partner carries an extra layer of anxiety.
Will you reach orgasm too quickly? Will she be disappointed? It feels like a crapshoot... only you're the one doing the shooting.
Desensitizing sprays like Promescent, condoms, and exercises like the squeeze technique or stop and start method can make a difference, especially over time.
What many men don't realize, however, is that howyou have sex can have as big of an impact on how quickly you orgasm.
So, let's jump into 12 positions you can try to boost your bedroom performance.
Lie on your back. Allow your partner to mount you, straddle your hips, and insert your penis from an upright position. She can then ride your penis like a cowgirl riding a bull.
This is a position where giving up some control can really help you.
Your partner has almost complete control of the penetration, stripping from you the ability to thrust quickly and vigorously if the spirit moves you.
Make sure your partner knows to limit your pleasure and focus on her pleasure. This will probably involve deep grinding and clitoral stimulation — the perfect break for your penis.
This is "Lazy Sex Exhibit A." All you have to do is lie there during sex and let her do the work.
Your partner will love it because it's her time in the sex session.
Both partners lie on their sides, your front pressing against her back like the spooning cuddle position.
You're the big spoon, she the little spoon.
Your partner should separate her legs a little. Find her vagina with your hand, and enter her from the rear.
The strokes available to you in this position will be very short, preventing you from making the long wild thrusts that push most men past the point of no return.
The short strokes target her G-spot, making it a great one for her. Focus on grinding your hips against her butt, and consider stimulating her clitoris with your fingers.
If you can bring her to orgasm, it's easier to feel good about your own orgasm whenever it happens.
Both of you are lying down, which you can do in your sleep. However, getting the right angle can require a little hip manipulation, especially if your hips are differing widths.
This is similar to spooning, but the partners face each other. Lying on your sides face to face, your partner lifts the free leg and wraps it around your hip, giving your hips access to her vagina.
Both partners control how deep they thrust, resulting in a sex position that is both active and passive for both partners.
The man relinquishes some control, allowing him to focus on sensations while limiting how much he can thrust.
You're still lying down, so you won't have to tap out or anything. The challenge here is coordinating your thrusts and working as a team.
The man sits on the bed or the floor, and the woman straddles his hips, facing him, allowing him to enter her from the front.
This position has the advantage of being hard to maintain.
The man can't thrust indiscriminately while holding himself up and his partner in position. It's a very intimate position, great for pleasing your partner and getting feedback from her reactions.
This position is awkward to maintain, especially if you have tight hamstrings or hips.
If you can't touch your toes, you might find yourself having to prop yourself up on your hands or tuck your legs if you can't extend them fully. Either way, this position teeters on the verge of collapse.
Lie on top of your partner as in normal missionary, but do not penetrate her. Instead, rub the back of the penis against her vulva, clitoris, and perineum.
Most people never think to try this form of "outercourse," but it can be a godsend for men who cum too quickly.
There's still a lot of wetness and warmth, but the sensation is focused on the less sensitive back of the penis, not the front of the shaft and the head, where the most orgasmic stimulation comes from.
She loves it because she can grind her clit against the shaft.
Most men can find a form of missionary sex that they can easily maintain, regardless of their fitness and flexibility.
Sorry for the flashbacks, those of you who went to Catholic school, but this has nothing to do with that.
It involves you lying on your side and her lying on her back, her torso at a 90-degree angle to your torso, her legs draped over your hips, her butt exposed to the front of your pelvis.
Thrust forward and enter her with your hips against the back of her thighs.
There's not much range of motion for you to go nuts within this position, nor is it easy to thrust uncontrollably when your hips are at rest.
The angles available here are really versatile, and lying on your side is the opposite of strenuous.
Doggy style is usually an "end-of-sex" thing because with the man in control of the thrusting, depth, and momentum on his side (plus a great view), it's nearly impossible to last long.
Prone rear-entry is a twist on doggy style that involves both of you lying down, you on top of her. Think of it as missionary with your partner flipped over, or spooning rotated face-down.
The depth of thrust available to you is greatly reduced, allowing you the fun of doggy style without the intense stimulation.
Figuring out where to put your knees is a challenge, as well as getting her hips at the right angle to your hips for you to actually enter her. Most women keep their hips lower than they need to be.
Similar to cowgirl, the woman climbs on top of you, but lies chest to chest, like an inverted missionary position.
This position allows the woman to envelop the penis deeply while restricting your ability to thrust.
She enjoys the deep sense of fullness and can grind her clit against your shaft, without vigorous thrusting to lose control over. She's in charge, so make sure to communicate with her if you are getting close and need a break.
Another chance to just chill on your back and let her do the work.
Sit on a chair and have her stand with her back facing you, then lower into a seated position on your lap, inserting your penis as she does so.
The woman has control and will usually grind against your hips, enjoying the deep penetration without long or fast thrusts. She might bounce a little, but she gets enough squats at the gym.
If you can sit in a chair, you can do this position.
Missionary is one of the easiest positions to lose control of because you're doing all the thrusting and have access to deep penetration.
Grinding missionary flips the position on its head by requiring you to thrust your penis deep and leave it there, grinding your hips against hers.
Without the long, intense thrusts, it's easier to keep your penis from being overstimulated. Meanwhile, your partner will love the front-action grinding. It rubs her clit while filling her vagina fully.
Most men know how to do some form of the missionary, and this is no different.
Find a nice comfy pillow she wouldn’t mind laying on. Make sure the pillow is near the bottom of her back.
This sex position requires him to stand facing her and towards the bed or table.
This position offers deep penetration, intimacy, and he has the option to thrust fast or slow which also creates a great opportunity to take a break if needed.
This position greatly benefits her as the pillow will lift her pelvis slightly, allowing for deeper penetration and the opportunity to target her G-spot more effectively.
Positioning and getting used to the pillow may take a minute or two but once that is comfortable and in place, everything else is smooth sailing.
Your partner lies on her back, as in the missionary position, with her legs splayed. You kneel upright, entering her missionary-style from a perpendicular position.
From this position you can not thrust as deeply, nor with as much force as you don't have the leverage of your free hips.
You are also in control and free to dial it back if things get too intense.
Moreover, the tension required to maintain the kneeling position can distract you from your pleasure just enough to delay orgasm.
Maintaining this kneeling position can be strenuous. You may delay orgasm, but this position can be hard to maintain.
Many men are basic creatures. They know two or three sexual positions, and that's it.
What men that experience premature ejaculation don't realize is that some sexual positions can actually help them last longer, for a number of reasons:
A man who learns more about his sexual repertoire becomes a better lover overall.
By learning the best positions for him to last longer he becomes much less boring in bed and not limited to the same two positions.
Women appreciate the opportunity to discover new sensations, never knowing what to expect from him in bed.
Switching positions during sex is a total porn star move that women love — it adds variety and new sensations to your sex positions.
For men with premature ejaculation, switching positions has a whole different implication — the opportunity for a break if you feel the big finish approaching.
This article gave you twelve new sex positions to play with that may help you last a little longer in the bedroom. It may be tempting to go nuts, switching positions every 30 seconds to delay your orgasm while showing your partner what a stud you are.
Slow your roll.
Women love variety, but they also love the chance to relax into a position and discover the sensations it has in store for them.
If you switch positions too frequently, she may feel like a prop in your own private sexual decathlon. By all means, switch it up, but control yourself.
Four or five positions in a sex session are plenty.
Some of these positions require flexibility or even physical strength to maintain.
This is as good a time as any to remind you that your overall physical health has a big impact on your sexual health.
Consider going to the gym if you have been putting it off. If you do work out, consider adding more lower body stretching to help you stay in these positions long enough to make an impression.
As many as 75% of women never reach orgasm from intercourse alone, relying on toys, hands, and tongues to get her there or at least mostly there.
This is great news for guys with PE.
Be the guy who listens to the pleas of countless women. Go for broke on foreplay like kissing, fingering, nipple play, and oral sex.
If you can bring your partner to climax before penetration even happens, how fast you cum will make far less of an impact on how you both feel about the sex session.
Buy yourself time by focusing on her! Then you never have to worry about whether or not you are good in bed.
You can then focus on delaying your orgasm for your own sake, not just hers.
Some sex positions to help you last longer in bed are covered in the 12 above, but that is just a start.
Women like when you switch up positions. It feels new and adventurous. It also can provide better stimulation for her during sex.
Finding a sex position that works for both of you may be hard, however.
You need to keep fitness and strength in mind and if lacking will make things hard.
Try out the basic sex positions to last longer; cowgirl, spooning, or girl on top. These will be a good test to see if they will help you prolong intercourse.
And if not, there are plenty of solutions out there like Promescent.
Learn more about how you can cope with premature ejaculation with this “In the Bedroom with Dr. Laura Berman” video from OWN.