Delay Ejaculation and Extend Pleasure: Best Sex Positions

If you are suffering from premature ejaculation, check out these sex positions -- recommended to help you to delay ejaculation and extend pleasure.

د. لورنس ليفين، دكتوراه في الطب
Expert in male sexual health, leading Urologist in USA
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If you’ve ever wished sex could last just a little longer—you’re not alone. Premature ejaculation is one of the most common sexual concerns among men, and it can leave both partners feeling frustrated or unsatisfied. But here’s the good news: there are real, practical ways to gain more control in the bedroom, and one of the simplest places to start is with your choice of position.

Different sex positions can change how much stimulation you feel, how much control you have, and even how connected you feel with your partner—all of which can impact how long you last. Whether you're looking to slow things down, dial up the intimacy, or just enjoy the moment a bit longer, learning which positions can help delay climax is a powerful step toward better, more satisfying sex.

Let’s explore the best sex positions to extend pleasure and keep you confidently in the moment.

Why Position Matters for Stamina

You might not think much about it in the heat of the moment, but the position you choose during sex can have a major effect on how quickly you reach orgasm. That’s because certain angles, depths, and types of movement create more intense stimulation—sometimes too much, too fast. The right position, on the other hand, can give you more control, reduce overstimulation, and help you tune in to your body’s cues.

Here’s how positioning plays into sexual stamina:

  • Control over rhythm and depth: When you’re in a position that allows you to set the pace, you can slow things down when needed and avoid the kind of fast, deep thrusts that often bring climax on quickly.
  • Less direct stimulation: Some positions reduce friction on the most sensitive areas of the penis, which can help delay orgasm.
  • Better breathing and body awareness: Certain positions make it easier to focus on your breathing, muscle tension, and overall arousal level—important tools for managing climax.
  • Connection over intensity: More intimate positions can shift the focus from performance to connection, which can naturally reduce anxiety and help you stay in control.

Now that we’ve laid the groundwork, let’s get into the top positions that help extend pleasure and put you in charge of your pace.

Top Positions That Help You Last Longer In Bed

When your goal is to enjoy longer-lasting sex, not all positions are created equal. The key is choosing setups that reduce overstimulation, encourage a slower rhythm, or give your partner more control. Here are the top options to try:

Spooning

This side-by-side position is cozy, connected, and great for pacing. With your bodies aligned, movement tends to be more subtle and controlled, naturally slowing down the tempo. Plus, the angle creates less intense stimulation, giving you more time before orgasm.

It’s ideal for morning sex or winding down at night.

Woman on Top

Letting your partner take the reins can give you a break from the pressure of leading, and helps you stay relaxed. Since she controls the speed and depth, you can focus on breathing and staying present. Communicate openly so she can adjust pace if needed.

Cowgirl (Grind, Not Bounce)

When your partner grinds her hips instead of bouncing up and down, there’s typically less friction and pressure on the most sensitive areas. That means you can enjoy the ride with reduced risk of finishing too soon.

Reverse Cowgirl

This variation combines a slightly different angle with a highly visual experience. While it can be stimulating, it allows for a smoother rhythm and less deep thrusting—especially if your partner focuses on rolling movements rather than bouncing.

Side-by-Side (Modified Missionary)

A variation of missionary where you lie more side-to-side than front-to-front. This reduces intensity, slows things down, and encourages a more sensual connection.

Quick Tips for Any Position:

  • Slow down your breathing—deep, controlled breaths help regulate arousal.
  • Use pauses or shifts to reset and reduce buildup.
  • Focus on your partner’s pleasure—it’s a great distraction that also builds intimacy.

Positions + Delay Techniques: A Winning Combo

While the right position can go a long way toward helping you last longer, pairing it with proven delay techniques takes things to the next level. It’s about working smarter, not harder—using both body awareness and helpful tools to keep control in your hands.

Try These Techniques Within Any Position:

  • Edging (Start-Stop): Just as you feel close to climax, pause movement, focus on deep breathing, and let the sensation subside before starting again. It’s a powerful way to build stamina and confidence.
  • Squeeze Technique: Gently squeeze the base of the penis when you’re nearing orgasm to momentarily reduce arousal. Best done with a partner’s help and in slower-paced positions like spooning or cowgirl.
  • Deep Breathing & Focus Shifting: In the moment, your breath can be your best ally. Slow, deep breaths reduce tension and delay climax. Mentally shifting your focus to other parts of your body or your partner can also help manage stimulation.

Use Delay Products to Support Control

When it comes to products, you have options.

Delay Spray

To enhance the effectiveness of these positions and techniques, consider adding a topical delay product like Promescent Delay Spray to your routine.

How it works:
Promescent’s spray uses a targeted dose of lidocaine to gently numb the most sensitive areas, reducing overstimulation without affecting your partner’s pleasure. It absorbs quickly and won’t transfer with proper use—so you stay in the moment longer, with confidence.

Best used with:
Positions that allow for buildup over time, such as spooning, grinding cowgirl, or side-by-side. You’ll enjoy more control without sacrificing sensation. Regardless of the position, بخاخ التأخير will help you gain more control over your orgasm.

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Delay wipes are a convenient way to apply targeted control, and people like them because in addition to being affective, they are discreet.

How it works:

Promescent’s wipes use benzocaine to relax the nerve cells just below the skin and temporarily reduce penis sensitivity. They can be used where needed, and should be applied to the most sensitive parts of the penis. For most men, this is the head and the underside of the shaft.

Best used with:

Allow 5-10 minutes for the penis wipe to be fully absorbed and start working. Effects last up to 30-45 minutes. Use in conjunction with positions and breathing techniques.

What to Avoid If You’re Trying to Last Longer

Just like some positions can help you stay in control, others can make things escalate way too fast. If premature ejaculation is something you’re working on, these positions may be best to limit or approach with more caution—at least until you build more control.

Missionary with Fast Thrusting

While missionary is often seen as the go-to position, it can be deceptively intense—especially with deep, rapid movements. It creates strong friction along the most sensitive parts of the penis and can make it tough to pause or slow down.

Try instead: A slowed-down or side-angled version of missionary for better control.

Standing Positions

Standing sex can be exciting, but it also tends to involve deeper penetration and less rhythm control. Plus, the physical exertion can elevate arousal and make it harder to hold back.

Try instead: Seated or kneeling positions where you can control movement more easily.

Doggy Style

This one’s super stimulating—and not in a subtle way. It’s intense, deep, and fast-paced, which can quickly overwhelm your ability to manage climax. Save it for times when you’re feeling more confident in your stamina or use it toward the end of a session.

Tip: If you love this position, try modifying it with shallower thrusts or mixing in pauses.

Lifestyle Tips to Boost Endurance in Bed

Lasting longer in bed isn’t just about what you do during sex—it’s also shaped by what you do outside the bedroom. Building stamina is a mix of physical conditioning, mental focus, and overall well-being. Here are some simple, science-backed ways to enhance your sexual endurance naturally:

Strengthen Your Pelvic Floor

Kegel exercises aren’t just for women. Strengthening the pelvic floor muscles can give you greater control over ejaculation.

Try this:

  • Squeeze the muscles you'd use to stop the flow of urine.
  • Hold for 3–5 seconds, then release.
  • Aim for 10–15 reps, 2–3 times a day.

Stay Active

Cardiovascular exercise improves blood flow, stamina, and hormone balance—all key for sexual performance.

Top choices:

  • Jogging, swimming, cycling, or HIIT workouts.
  • Even 30 minutes a day can make a big difference.

Practice Mindfulness

Anxiety is a major trigger for premature ejaculation. Mindfulness training helps you stay grounded, read your body's signals, and enjoy the moment without rushing.

Try this:

  • 10 minutes of guided meditation or breathwork each day.
  • Focus techniques during sex to tune in to physical sensations without letting arousal take over.

Watch Your Diet & Sleep

Nutrient-rich foods and quality sleep support healthy testosterone levels and nerve function.

Fuel up with:

  • Lean protein, leafy greens, omega-3s, and whole grains.
  • Aim for 7–8 hours of sleep per night for optimal hormone balance.

Limit Alcohol and Porn Use

Excessive alcohol can dull your senses and lead to performance issues. Similarly, high levels of porn use can desensitize you and shorten your real-life stamina.

Products That Support Better Stamina

If you’re looking for a little extra help staying in control, you’re not alone—and thankfully, there are effective, easy-to-use products designed to support your goals. From sprays to supplements, these tools can complement your efforts in the bedroom and beyond.

Promescent Delay Spray

This targeted, fast-acting spray is a game-changer for men who want to reduce sensitivity without losing the moment. A quick application before sex helps extend your experience without numbing your partner.

  • How to use: Spray 10–15 minutes before sex, let it absorb, and go.
  • Pairs well with: Positions like spooning or cowgirl that give you more time to enjoy the moment.

Desensitizing Wipes

Milder than sprays, these lubricants blend a touch of numbing agent with slick, skin-safe ingredients to reduce overstimulation.

  • Tip: Look for ones labeled for couples or arousal balance.

Testosterone-Boosting Supplements

Low testosterone can contribute to lower stamina, energy, and drive. If you suspect hormonal factors may be involved, a natural supplement—or a visit to your doctor—might be worth exploring.

  • Ingredients to look for: Ashwagandha, zinc, iron, vitamin D.

ED Medications (if anxiety is a factor)

For some men, the pressure to perform can lead to premature climax or difficulty staying hard. In these cases, a low-dose ED med can provide extra confidence and support.

The Bottom Line: It’s About Progress, Not Perfection

If you’ve been struggling with lasting longer in bed, know this: you’re not broken, and you’re definitely not alone. Premature ejaculation is more common than most people realize—and it’s also one of the most treatable sexual challenges.

The good news is that small changes—like adjusting your sex positions, learning a few delay techniques, and exploring supportive products—can make a big difference. Over time, you’ll build greater control, confidence, and connection with your partner.

Sex isn’t just about endurance—it’s about enjoying the journey. With a little practice and the right tools, you can make that journey last as long as you want it to.

د. لورنس ليفين، دكتوراه في الطب

د. لورنس ليفين، دكتوراه في الطب

Dr Laurence Levine is a Professor of Urology and practices at Rush University Medical Center in Chicago. He is focused specifically on Male Sexual Health and is past President of the Sexual Medicine Society of North America (SMSNA). Dr. Levine graduated from the University of Colorado School of Medicine where he received his MD and completed his training in Urology at the Harvard Program in Boston.

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