The studies confirm it — a high percentage of adults (85.4% of men and 83.2% of women) participate in oral sex. While considered mostly taboo to talk about before the 1970s, rest assured, oral sex has deep roots in history.
Whether you're looking to please your lady or want to show your man a good time, brushing up on oral sex techniques is only going to make you a better lover.
Both newbies headed downtown for the first time and seasoned oral sex pros have room to learn.
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Oral sex can be an important part of foreplay — or a fulfilling sex act anytime — and it should be fun for everyone involved.
So here's a breakdown of the best oral techniques, oral positions to try, and more tips to help you put your skills where your mouth is.
Most people don't just jump right into penetrative sex.
Your body needs to warm up, the blood needs to fill your sexual nerve endings, and your mind needs to relax to get your body to unwind and accept pleasure.
Oral sex can be an invaluable tool to make all of those things happen and help you improve your sexual experience.
Why is oral sex and foreplay such a key part of a healthy sexual relationship?
The receivers open and vulnerable to their partner; the giver is focusing only on their partner's sexual pleasure they can prolong the length of the whole sexual experience.
While intercourse may last just a few minutes for most, oral sex can be a more controlled and focused way to please your partner.
About 85 percent of men reach orgasm during sex while only 63 percent of women do, so oral sex can help close that gap.
Plus, guys who have issues with premature ejaculation can use the best oral techniques for women to bring a female partner closer to orgasm and makes sure she feels fully satisfied after their encounter.
Studies show that 85.4% of men engage in oral sex.
Studies show that 83.2% of women engage in oral sex.
About 85 percent of men reach orgasm during sex while only 63 percent of women do, so oral sex can help close the arousal gap.
Grapefruiting as it is commonly known, is the act of giving a blow job with the aid of a hollowed out grapefruit that you run up and down the shaft while sucking on the head.
Pretty much all sexual positions involving penetration can translate into oral positions that can be just as enjoyable.
Oral sex — especially when you’re an extra enthusiastic giver like I am — can generate some tricky neck angles, and make it hard to focus on pleasure delivery.
Here are a few ideas for oral sex positions for both male and female partners.
Performing oral sex when your partner has a penis can seem relatively straightforward.
His protruding genitalia makes it easy to come up with all kinds of interesting oral sex positions for him.
While he's positioned on his back, access his manhood with your mouth by:
Lay on your back on the bed with your head at the very edge of the mattress, while he stands and controls the movements.
This position can be achieved with the giver either face-up or face-down, both of which have their perks.
A chair is a creative oral sex accessory when it comes to pleasing him.
Either have him take a seat while you kneel on the floor in front of him (grab a cushion for your knees to get extra comfortable) or you have a seat while he positions himself in front of your face.
Women don't necessarily have protruding genitalia which can make giving her pleasurable oral sex a bit more of a challenge.
Try these oral sex positions on her to decide what works best for you and your partner.
Simply put, she's on her back with a pillow (or two) under her butt.
This position raises her hips comfortably so you can savor her with your mouth, all without having to hold your neck at an awkward angle.
This also helps you maintain your position for longer without needing to readjust.
For this fun oral sex position, lie on your back face up and have her straddle your mouth.
She's going to be in charge of most of the movement as she rides your face and gets to decide exactly where on her vulva she wants your lips and tongue, including the speed and pressure she prefers.
Who said you needed a bed to give her pleasure?
Try having her stand against a wall facing you or the wall. You can then kneel down and begin several oral sex techniques.
This position should allow you both to feel a different sensation as you’ll be in an uncommon position for oral play.
Wowing your female with oral pleasure can seem intimidating, but with a few good pointers, she's going to have a toe-curling, sheet-grabbing experience every time you go down on her.
Here are some tips to drive her wild while pleasing her with your mouth.
Contrary to popular belief, it’s not hard to find a woman’s clitoris.
At the top front of her vulva, where her vaginal lips meet, you can find the clitoral hood, under which her clit is located.
As she becomes more aroused, her clit will become more engorged with blood and will start to poke out more from under the hood, making it easier to stimulate her in this way.
Some women have larger or more protruding clits than others, so you might have to do a bit more work to tease her clit out from under the hood.
The clitoris has an astounding 15,000 nerve-endings, making it one of the most sensitive parts of a woman’s body.
Most women cannot orgasm without clitoral stimulation; many women cannot orgasm solely from penetration, so clitoral stimulation is likely necessary for her to climax.
One of the best oral sex pointers to keep in mind when pleasing a woman is to focus on her clit, but do so slowly, gradually increasing in tempo and pressure, and back off occasionally to make her want more.
Don't just dive in with your tongue full-force; it can be too much too soon, especially if she's not already fully aroused.
Start slowly and build up her pleasure.
Take your time to tease the areas around her clitoris first with your tongue and mouth. Circle her clit before diving in with your tongue.
Her inner and outer labia have many nerve endings as well, so don’t forget to pay attention to those areas, too.
While your tongue can give you precision aim wherever you're trying to stimulate her, don't flick and poke with the tip of your tongue. It can be far more pleasurable for her if you're putting your whole mouth to work.
Your main focus during oral sex with a woman may be to tease her external parts like her clitoris and vaginal lips, but some simultaneous penetrating action can be really enjoyable for her, too.
Once you’ve warmed her up with clitoral stimulation, you can try sliding one finger into her vagina to start, and see how she feels with this kind of penetration.
Note: always make sure your fingernails are trimmed so you don’t scratch or hurt her during play.
Keep licking and stimulating her clitoris while your finger slowly moves inside her vagina.
If she’s enjoying the penetration, you can try adding another finger inside her. A vibrator or sex toy can also be used for penetration with the added bonus of vibrations.
The best position for your fingers or sex toy for this type of dual stimulation would be to make sure you’re rubbing towards the front wall of her vagina to stimulate her G-spot (so called for the legendary Dr. Ernst Gräfenberg), which is the fleshy mound approximately 2 to 3 inches into her vagina.
Try not to apply too much pressure here, but focus your attention on the frontal wall of her vagina during penetration to give her the most pleasure.
Dual stimulation of both her internal and external parts can give her a heightened orgasmic experience, and with practice and timing, could result in giving her a blended orgasm (simultaneous clitoral and G-Spot orgasms).
Paying attention to her body language during oral sex is key in uncovering what movements and touches she is most responsive to.
Every woman’s body is different, but signs to look for include when she’s raising her hips towards your mouth, tensing her legs, curling her toes or fingers, and when her breathing or moaning comes faster or more heavily.
When she responds to whatever it is you may be doing with your mouth, you are going to be tempted to go faster and apply more pressure, but refrain from doing so too quickly.
Going too hard and too fast when she is close to the edge can actually either inhibit her from orgasming at all or deliver her an unfulfilling orgasm caused by overstimulation.
You don't want either, so stick with the movements and pressure that she’s enjoying, and gradually, carefully, increase your intensity according to how she is responding.
Don't be afraid to talk to her while you give her oral pleasure.
Tell her how good she tastes, smells and feels. Ask her what she likes when you try a new movement with your mouth or tongue:
Communicating throughout the sexual experience, especially as you’re discovering a new lover’s body, can be incredibly arousing and pleasurable for both of you, and will help you learn about her body and what she likes in the process.
Men’s genitals are more complex than they get credit for, even though his parts are nowhere near as complicated to stimulate as a female's.
Pleasing a man with the best oral sex techniques is all about knowing what areas deserve the most attention.
Check out these oral sex tips for him.
If he's not quite fully aroused or even if you just want to get things off to a slow start, start by teasing him with the tip of your wet tongue.
Using your hands and fingers to stroke, fondle, and squeeze while using your mouth is ever-important when it comes to oral sex for men.
Your hands, especially when well-lubed, can be an extension of your mouth and increase the pleasure your mouth is delivering.
Testicle and scrotum play are an important part of oral sex for men, but it’s common to disregard this fact.
Even though the scrotum and testicles are not filled with as many nerve endings as his penis, playing with them can encourage blood circulation to his genitals and help with ejaculate production.
Not to mention, he's going to enjoy it as you build up his pleasure.
The BIGGEST Rules of Scrotum and Testicle Play
If you're new to orally pleasuring his testicles, do some gentle tongue flicking and lapping, and maybe some ever-gentle kissing and sucking.
When you recognize that he is getting close to climax, if you want him to actually get to that point, gradually build up intensity and pace with whatever it is you're doing that’s giving him pleasure.
For example, if you're sucking and stroking, do so with a little more pressure and a little faster. But build him up slowly.
A key here is to hold your rhythm.
Don't change your action too drastically unless you're trying to steer him away from orgasming right then (e.g. switching from sucking and stroking to flicking your tongue along his shaft).
Ask what men want with oral sex, and you'll get a lot of answers.
But there's one thing that you can pretty much count on: he's going to enjoy your verbal input.
Whether you're asking him what he likes or telling him what you're doing when you're doing it and how much you’re enjoying yourself, he's going to be thrilled with your comments.
And of course, talking dirty during any kind of sexual play doesn’t hurt, either.
Plus, talking during oral sex and foreplay helps you get familiar with what he likes the most.
Oral sex can be like the opening act that sets the stage for the overall sexual performance. It also doesn't even have to be a precursor for intercourse — it's a lot of fun to give and receive for both parties involved. Remember:
While it sounds like it would be easy to get things wrong, oral sex is not rocket science.
With a little guidance, open communication with your partner, and maybe even a little trial and error, oral sex changes everything... for the better!