Want to learn how to masturbate? We've put together the 15 best tips and tricks for great masturbation.
People who have penises tend to figure out how to jerk off at an early age. They then learn how to master the skill of masturbating quickly so no one else catches them in the act.
As Dr. Denise Renye expresses in a Good Therapy Article, society can place a lot of shame around solo sex.
When people don't masturbate because of shame, they have less opportunity to learn about their bodies.
They also miss out on the benefits of masturbation. Dr Gloria Brame expressed in a Psychology Today Article, orgasms are the biggest non-drug blast of dopamine available.
How to Jerk Off: Best Ways to Masturbate
While there's no single best tip on how to jack off, there are many things that you can do to make it more pleasurable. Here are 15 masturbation techniques for men.
1. Create the Mood
Dimming the lights, turning on sensual music, pouring a glass of wine, lighting candles, aromatherapy.
These are things we tend to think women do to prepare themselves to masturbate.
Or things we do to set the mood for a date.
Most men wouldn't think to set the mood for themselves.
The thing is, masturbation is an act of self-care.
Many men grow up thinking that self-care is self-indulgence and somehow unmanly.
The truth is, just like women, we have our best sex when we're relaxed, at ease, and in our element.
That includes sex with ourselves.
So pour yourself some bourbon, dim the lights, and light some candles.
You might be surprised how much it enhances your enjoyment of the act!
2. Change Up your Positions
Sex with a partner is often more fun when you switch up sex positions.
Why limit yourself when solo sex is on the menu?
Try masturbating while:
- lying down
- sitting up
- standing up
- leaning against a wall
- or in the shower
You might learn to enjoy sex from a position you never used to like.
And you don't have to do it in the heat of the moment with a partner when it's "go time."
Learn more about different sex positions to try right now! See: Top 12 Sex Positions to Try in 2022 (With Images)
3. Don't Rush
There are reasons to masturbate quickly.
Maybe you're late for work, or your mom could walk in at any moment, or you just feel like rubbing one out real quick.
Too many men adopt a habit of rushed masturbation long after they move out of their parent's house.
This can actually exacerbate the problem of premature ejaculation.
Slow down! Indulge in some anticipation, maybe a little buildup.
Your orgasms will be stronger with a prolonged session.
Learn this simple technique to help you last a little longer during sex: The Squeeze Technique: Step by Step Guide (With Images)
4. Use a Lubricant
Dry masturbation is not ideal. Your penis could become desensitized over time, or even develop "rug burn.”
Fight this effect by using lube when you masturbate.
No, not lotion. The use of lotion isn't lubing.
It becomes less slick as it rubs into your skin, and scented lotions could cause irritation.
The best bet is a sexual lubricant, preferably water-based and free of warming agents, which can also cause irritation.
You can use a 100%-pure dietary oil like coconut oil in a pinch.
Using petroleum jelly, like Vaseline, is not recommended as a sexual lubricant because it can break down condoms, but the product is non-toxic and safe to use as a masturbation lubricant.
Not sure which lubricant to use? Try our paraben-free water-based lubricant
5. Tune In To Your Body
Masturbation is a chance to get off, sure. But it’s also a chance to listen to your body and how it responds.
Pay attention to:
- Your breathing
- Your heartbeat
- How does your stomach feel?
- Are you carrying tension?
- Do you have anxiety or are you relaxed?
You may have never thought of masturbation as a meditative act, but it can be.
The more attuned you are to your body, the more confident and at ease you will be in bed with a partner during sex.
6. Try Your Southpaw
It's easy to fall into a masturbation rut.
If you really want to shake things up, try it with your non-dominant hand.
Not only will you discover new sensations, but you will discover a challenge akin to figuring out the nuances of a partner's body, making you more versatile in bed.
7. Thrust Your Hips
Hip thrusting is more than just a way to get there.
It's an instinct with a mental reward. Don't neglect it when you masturbate.
Try bringing your pelvis to your hand rather than your hand to your pelvis to discover more intense and pleasurable orgasms.
8. Different Strokes for the Same Folks
Once guys have found your go-to stroke, they tend to stick with it through thick and thin.
This can leave them unprepared for the unpredictable sensations a partner's stimulation may produce during sex.
Experiment with different strokes to masturbate.
Learning to use different strokes will help you learn to get off with a partner, even if the stimulation isn't what you are used to experiencing.
Try twisting, pulling, three fingers, anything you can think of to alter the way you stroke yourself.
9. There's More to your Genitals Than the Penis
You really sell yourself short by focusing just on the head of the penis.
While the corona (the ridge around the head of your penis) and the frenulum (the underside where the head and shaft meet) have more nerve endings than any other place on your genitals, there are other pleasurable places to explore.
The scrotum has almost as many nerve endings, and the perineum (aka "taint") behind the scrotum plays a huge role in sexual pleasure if you let it.
Pay attention to your balls. Try gently pulling on them or caressing them as you stroke, massaging the perineum (or taint) just behind the balls.
Pro Tip: Try pressing down on the perineum during and after climax to intensify the orgasmic sensation.
10. There's More to your Body than the Genitals
Males get turned on by so many different kinds of touch, not just a genital touch.
You probably only masturbate with one hand. Give that other hand a job other than operating the mouse. Try:
- Touching your chest
- Playing with your nipples
- Caressing your belly
- Touching your thighs
- Pinching your ears and neck
You will find so many more forms of sexual response than just penis stroking, leading to a much more satisfying solo sex session.
11. Don't Forget Your Prostate
Women have their G-Spot, and we men have our prostate.
Yes, that gland is just inside your anus.
Many guys don't like the thought of anal stimulation, but for those men who get over it, an ocean of sexual pleasure awaits on the other side.
If you want to try it:
- make sure that you wash your hands
- trim your fingernails
- lube up your fingers or a small toy
- start by caressing and stimulating the rim of the anus
- get nice and relaxed before inserting just a little bit
You might find it difficult to work the prostate and the penis at the same time.
Pro Tip: If you're looking to try prostate play, then check out the Vector prostate massager available from Promescent. See what you've been missing.
Initially, you might find the whole experience uncomfortable, but many men love prostate stimulation.
It's worth a try to see if you're one of them.
12. Consider Edging
Also known as the stop-and-start method, this technique consists of masturbating close to orgasm, then stopping stimulation altogether, denying the penis its final release, and forcing it to "de-arouse."
Many men feel like this experience builds up to an explosive, mind-blowing orgasm.
Over time it can also alleviate premature ejaculation.
Learn How To Edge With Our Complete Guide Here.
13. Play with Toys
Experimenting with different ways to masturbate may mean incorporating sex toys.
Pocket or sleeve masturbation aids that you slide your penis into have come a long way in terms of the sensations they can produce.
Prostate stimulators and anal beads can help you get the back door in on the fun.
14. Vary your Porn
Many guys rely on free pornographic videos available in abundance on the web.
There are other options, however.
You might try reading your porn or listening to it as an audiobook.
Men are visual creatures, but closing your eyes is a great way to get in touch with your body.
You might find an appreciation for erotica you never knew you had.
Video porn has its far horizons as well. Consider paying for premium porn.
A deep rabbit hole of fantasy is waiting for you behind the paywall.
15. Fantasize
Before porn, men fantasized.
There is still merit to this oldest of stimulation techniques.
The mental exercise actually prepares you for the real thing. It's an active process, not a passive process of watching porn.
Try imagining your dream partner or scenario playing out behind your eyelids.
Get detailed. Imagine the things you’d say or do.
You may end up coming away from the whole experience with new ideas to bring into the bedroom.
What are the benefits of masturbating?
Masturbation isn't just fun and natural — it actually has several health benefits.
Like sexual intercourse, it releases hormones like serotonin and dopamine that have all sorts of beneficial effects.
Multiple clinical studies suggest that many health benefits exist, like:
- Stress Relief
- Better Sleep
- Better Mood
- Greater Relaxation
- Pleasure and Wellbeing
- Fewer Cramps
- Less Sexual Tension
- Better Sex
- Possible Reduced Risk of Prostate Cancer
How often should you masturbate?
As long as you do it properly and avoid harmful masturbation practices (see below), you can masturbate multiple times a day if you desire.
No adverse health effects have been linked to an excess of ejaculation.
Although there are communities out there such as the No-Fap community who rave about the benefits of refraining from masturbation.
A 2016 study published in European Urology suggested that ejaculating at least 21 times per month greatly reduced a man's risk of prostate cancer. However, some doctors found the science behind this article to be questionable.
The study relied on self-reporting and didn’t differentiate between masturbation and sex with a partner. Hence, there are most likely some unforeseen factors at play here.
What you should not be doing when you masturbate
It’s great that masturbation has come out of the closet, but it’s not all sunshine and roses.
Men can cause themselves problems down the road, sexually speaking, by masturbating incorrectly.
Here are some things to avoid while masturbating:
1. The Death Grip
Many men adopt the habit of squeezing their penis too hard when they masturbate, this is known as death grip syndrome.
In doing so, they become accustomed to very intense stimulation.
Stimulation from a partner can be much more subtle.
If you have trouble climaxing with a partner because of it, it’s time to vary your masturbation technique.
Try different strokes, your opposite hand, and a lighter touch.
2. Masturbating Without Lube
As mentioned above, masturbating without lube can chafe your penis and even desensitize it permanently.
Consider a penis-specific lotion to heal any damage, and start masturbating with lube (not lotion) immediately.
See our recommended lubricants to enhance your sexual experience!
3. Rushing
Hurrying your masturbation routine not only deprives you of pleasure and a chance to relax, but it can create or worsen a premature ejaculation problem.
Slow down. It’s not a race.
4. Shame
Repeat after us — masturbation is perfectly normal, even beneficial.
You aren’t betraying your partner, family, or king and country by fapping every now and then.
Key Takeaways
Now you know more about male masturbation and how to do it in a way that's enjoyable and may even help you last longer with a partner.
There are many ways to build on your usual masturbation techniques for better sensations.
Some will be brand new, and some too adventurous.
But that’s okay — as long as you’re doing it right, without causing long-term harm.
While masturbating can be a safe sexual practice, we should note that compulsive masturbation may be an indicator of issues that aren't healthy.
Consider seeking the assessment of a sex therapist if you compulsively masturbate multiple times per day.
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