Every guy wants to perform well between the sheets. The squeeze technique may allow you to do just that.
It’s one of many exercises that sex therapists and other sexperts recommend to help with premature ejaculation. Some men find that it does wonders, while for others, it falls short from being anything special.
The squeeze technique is usually one of the first premature ejaculation exercises that men try as it is easy to learn and requires no special equipment.
Timing is everything and self-control is a must. Even one too many thrusts when you get close to climax and it’s over.
We’ll cover step-by-step instructions on how to do the squeeze technique and with careful concentration and self-control, you may just find this technique is just what you needed to build bedroom confidence.
But first… some quick science to help you understand the mechanics.
The founders of Master and Johnson Institute and developers of ‘The Squeeze Technique’, Virgina Masters (left) and William Masters (right). Bettmann/Corbis/TheDailyBeast
In the 1950s, two famous sex experts, Masters and Johnson, were changing the way people thought about and experienced sex.
Masters and Johnson were among the first American researchers to focus their academic work on exploring human sexuality. These sex experts released multiple scientific papers and even published popular mass-market books on the subject. While much of their work was theoretical, some of it proved to be quite a bit more practical.
One of the most useful, accessible, and enduring contributions the duo made to the sex life of couples was the development and popularization of an effective and free way of helping men control premature ejaculation.
In Human Sexual Inadequacy, 1970, Masters and Johnson called their new method, ‘The Squeeze Technique’.
You may have heard people calling the same technique other names, such as 'the squeeze method’, 'the stop and squeeze’, or 'the pause squeeze technique’.
Even after more than half a century, many guys continue to use the squeeze technique to last longer in bed.
The squeeze technique for premature ejaculation works by manually preventing the flow of the ejaculate from exiting the penis by applying pressure.
The idea is straightforward, but to fully understand how and why it works, you need to get a better picture of your penis.
Look at the images above. On the external diagram, find where the head of the penis meets the shaft. This is called the frenulum.
This area is where you need to focus on while using the technique.
Now, take a second look at the internal diagram. Notice the location of the urethra. The urethra is the tube that carries the ejaculate from the sperm ducts and out of the body.
By temporarily stopping and squeezing the penis at the right time and in the correct place, it is possible to close off the urethra just enough to prevent the release of ejaculation and extend intercourse.
Just because the idea behind the pause and squeeze is simple doesn't mean that getting it to work is easy.. In fact, it takes practice, a lot of practice. And that is not such a bad thing.
One of the best aspects of the squeeze technique is its flexibility.
To give you the most options, you can find descriptions for treating yourself, as well as a way to work with a partner to use the squeeze method below.
Whether you don't currently have a partner or would prefer to deal with your PE by yourself, it is okay.
You can quite literally take the problem into your own hands.
Even if you intend to use the squeeze technique with a partner, it is a good idea to practice on yourself first.
Don't be disappointed if you are unable to control your orgasm entirely. It will probably take multiple sessions to perfect your technique.
Finding a solution for your quick ejaculation with the help of your sexual partner can be a bonding experience, but make sure it is something she or he wants to do.
Both of you need to be on board when it comes to using this method because if not, it can decrease sexual satisfaction.
The simple answer is, yes, it does.
According to a study by Deem and Kim, 2019, the method treated greater than 85 percent of patients successfully. So, it is a viable way to help at least some men treat premature ejaculation.
If this method is not working out for you, it is okay. There are other ways to control your PE that might.
The Squeeze Technique won't be a good fit for everyone, but that is okay.
There are lots of different methods ranging from topical desensitizing sprays to a variety of physical treatment alternatives.
So, if you are looking for more tips to last longer in bed, you might want to try it out one of these options:
Adding an extra layer such as a condom may help decrease the sensitivity of the penis. Thus, increasing the man’s chance of lasting longer, however, you may want to conduct further research on this possible misconception.
If you are already wearing one, you may want to try one that's thicker. Thicker condoms are typically sold as "extra safe" or "extra strength." In other words, these slogans are basically saying the condom is thicker than normal which may decrease sensation.
That is still not doing the trick? You can try condoms with pre-applied numbing gel.
You should be aware that some people who use condoms with numbing gel report too much of a general numbing sensation and if you’re thinking about trying them, it would be best to do research on a delay spray instead.
Instead of depending on a numbing condom which affects your entire penis, you can opt to pinpoint the most sensitive areas with a spray like Promescent.
The advantage over other methods is that they are easy to apply where you want, and you can decide how much to use. It is a very personalized treatment that’s been clinically proven to work on-demand and when you need it most.
With a spray like Promescent, transference to the partner is minimal and condoms aren’t needed if you prefer not to wear one.
Some guys don't feel comfortable with the squeeze technique approach to control ejaculation.
They find the pressure can be a little too painful or the hand position too awkward. If you fall into this category, then you may prefer to use the stop-start method. Many people like to call this method ‘edging’.
To use this technique, the man has sex in the usual way until he is at the point just before he has an orgasm. Then he stops.
He does not have to withdraw but just stops thrusting until the need to ejaculate subsides.
Then he can continue and repeat this behavior until ready to finish.
Because there is nothing physically blocking the ejaculation, the stop-start method is more challenging to master than the squeeze technique. But it may be worth the effort.
Many men find that once they know what they are doing, the start-stop method not only helps to prevent premature ejaculation but can heighten the sensation of having one.
You probably think of Kegel exercises as something that women do to tone and strengthen their pelvic floor. You are correct, they are.
But they are also a great way for men who suffer from premature ejaculation issues to gain greater control of their orgasms, Grace Dorey, 2004. Unlike the squeeze technique or the stop-start method, Kegel exercises are done before sex.
Doing this exercise is a form of isometric exercises that help to strengthen certain muscles that are related to premature ejaculation as well as erectile dysfunction (ED).
Performing Kegel exercises are easy, and it only takes a few minutes per day.
First, you need to learn which muscles you need to focus your attention on. You can feel which muscles these are by trying to stop urinating midstream.
Once you identify the muscles, one way to do a simple Kegel exercise is to tighten and hold those muscles for a five-second count. Do this ten times in a row, two to three times a day, and you are well on your way to improving your love life.
This overview covers just the basics of Kegel exercises.
You can learn a lot more about Kegel exercises and how they can help men here: Male Kegel Exercises to Last Longer: Step by Step Guide
So, you have a lot to think about when it comes to treating premature ejaculation.
The squeeze technique is a quick way to start to better understand how ejaculation works, but it may not be the right solution for you. Some mind find the pressure to be too uncomfortable, while others find that it works just fine.
There’s evidence on both sides when researchers put the exercise to the test of whether or not it works. However, there must be some men that find it helpful or else it would be so popular.
Trying the technique while masturbating and then bringing it into your relationship may be the best approach. It will make the process more comfortable and you’ll know just how much pressure to tell your partner to apply to your penis to ensure it works.
And if it doesn’t work?
We’ll there are plenty of other treatment options, from over-the-counter products like Promescent to different exercises.
Check out some of the resources just below to discover more about other techniques that could help your bedroom performance.
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