Odds are you've asked, "What can I do to cum slower?" Here are the top tips to not cumming so fast.
Part of a healthy sex life is when intercourse is mutually beneficial both for you and your partner. Learning how to not cum fast can help with accomplishing that.
Various circumstances can sometimes kill the mood.
While erectile dysfunction seems to get the most attention in men's health, an equally frustrating issue is premature ejaculation or PE.
What's more, premature ejaculation is a bit more of a taboo subject than some of the other issues men can experience in the bedroom.
Luckily there are many methods used to help men last longer in bed. Some of these treatments range from products like Promescent Delay Spray to exercises that can be practiced in the comfort of your own home.
While there is no one size fits all answer to this question. there are a number of factors that can play a part in premature ejaculation. Everything from stress and anxiety to diet and exercise can play a role in premature ejaculation.
It is more common than you might think. Roughly 30-40% of men admit to having a problem with premature ejaculation at some point in their lives.
Studies show that between 30 and 40 percent of all men will experience premature ejaculation at some point in their lifetimes.
So how do you last longer in bed?
The good news is that there are various over-the-counter treatments you can purchase and techniques that you can practice to slow climax during sex.
In this post, we're going to take a look at a variety of tips and tricks to help you better control orgasm. Here's a look:
The answer to how to cum slower doesn't have to be a difficult one.
You can try out many things on your own or with your partner to better control ejaculating and bring more pleasure into your sex life.
We're going to cover various things you can try to prolong ejaculating in this section. Here's are some of the best tips to try or products to use:
If some of the other methods that we'll get to below fail to work and you're looking for near instant way to start cumming slower, using delay spray could be the answer.
Delay sprays are, well, exactly what it sounds like - it's a particular type of spray that you apply to the penis about 5-10 minutes before sex.
This spray contains lidocaine, a topical anesthetic that works to desensitize the penis and delay orgasm.
The desensitization wears off after about 30-minutes to an hour.
These convenient delay wipes come in a small, condom-size, single-use package.
Like a delay spray, they're best applied to the penis about 5-10 minutes before sex. Unlike the spray, the wipes use benzocaine as the desensitizing agent rather than lidocaine.
While both provide a desensitizing effect and can help you last longer in bed, there are some differences worth pointing out.
Though wipes work similarly to sprays, one benefit that wipes exhibit is that they're portable, easy to tuck into a pocket or wallet, and more discreet.
Kegel exercises, or Kegels, are perhaps best associated with strengthening the pelvic muscles in women, notably after pregnancy.
But many doctors say that men who exercise this muscle group can also benefit by lasting longer in bed by gaining better control over orgasm.
Some research indicates that Kegels can also help prevent erectile dysfunction or ED.
So why do Kegels have the potential to be so impactful in helping men last longer in bed?
It's because they help with muscle control, and it's primarily the muscle that's responsible for holding back ejaculation during sex.
For best results, it's recommended that men perform up to 20 kegel exercises in three to four sets each day.
One nice thing about working out the pelvic floor muscles is that it can be done without involving a partner, potentially saving any embarrassment from admitting premature ejaculation issues.
The start and stop or edging technique is a method to avoid cumming that's best practiced with your partner.
It's simple to do and can even be fun to practice.
Essentially, it involves having sex with your partner until you're nearly ready to orgasm and then stopping until you regain control.
It can be a fun way to spice things up in the bedroom with your partner as you switch positions each time you "stop."
Practicing this technique regularly can help you gain better control over your orgasms.
This is another technique that is best performed with your partner.
Here's how it works:
Your partner stimulates your penis - usually either orally, with their hand, or via intercourse - close to the point of orgasm.
As you near climax, your partner then gently squeezes the head of the penis until your urge to ejaculate begins to subside.
Like the start and stop method mentioned earlier, it's a method that helps you get better control over when you cum.
While the squeeze technique is more fun to practice with a partner, it can also be performed solo.
Watching porn and masturbating to the point of climax and then squeezing your penis head yourself is another option - albeit perhaps a less enjoyable one.
If you last less than 2 minutes in bed and want to practice lasting longer with simulated sex, you could get toys like the MYHIXEL Male Stamina Trainer.
Think of it as a male masturbation device, as it's a tube that's essentially designed to mimic the vaginal canal anatomically.
It can even be temperature controlled, so it comes as close to the real thing as being in an actual vagina.
After receiving the product, download the MYHIXEL trainer app and start performing exercises to help you last longer in bed. It's a great way to train your penis.
Another toy that might be worth considering is a penis sleeve.
Penis sleeves are similar to a condom with regards to how you wear them on the body.
They fit snug and tight around the penis, so much so that they help reduce sensitivity levels.
This can lead to longer-lasting and more enjoyable sex.
More foreplay can help men avoid cumming too soon by giving them more control and not trying to do everything so quickly.
Foreplay can also be a lot of fun and help you feel close to your partner.
You know what it's like when you're in the moment.
You're both breathing hard, your body is on top of (or under) your partner's, and you love feeling all the sensations involved in sex.
Yes, things get intense. But if you get too stimulated too quickly, you're going to be cumming before you know it.
One way many men settle themselves down near climax is by thinking about something that's not sexy. You know, grandma cooking, your locker at the gym, clothes shopping.
You get the picture.
Anything that helps you relax and calm down a little bit so all the fun can last.
Partaking in a little bit of solo action in anticipation of sex later on, can help increase the amount of time you last in bed.
Think of it as a warm-up to the main event.
If you believe your PE issues run deeper than anything that can’t be corrected with what we've discussed in this post, it can be helpful to book some focused time with a psychiatrist or therapist.
If the underlying issue is a troubled relationship, it may even be beneficial for your partner to attend these sessions with you.
Don't be afraid to ask for help.
Usually, cumming too quickly happens if a man or a couple has gone a considerable amount of time between intercourse.
It can lead to over-excitement, which can lead to intense sex and early ejaculation.
What's more, is the more sex you have, the more opportunities you have to experiment with the sprays, wipes, toys, and other methods we're discussing here to see what works best for you.
Most men often try some of the methods discussed above relying on prescription medication only as a last resort.
Antidepressants can help you cum slower, though they may also come with other side effects that may make them off-putting.
As we said earlier, everyone's situation is different, and if your situation becomes a significant concern, every man will find what works best for them in terms of dealing with it.
Medication may be a method that works for some men. Ask your doctor for advice.
Sex should be fun.
It should also be a very intimate way to connect and express your love with your partner.
And unfortunately, things like cumming too quickly have the potential to put a damper on both of these things.
The good news is that a variety of options are effective in delaying ejaculation to help you and your partner experience much more satisfying sex.
And as a plus, many of these options are very inexpensive to try.
From delay sprays and wipes to toys and other methods, take the time to experiment with what works for you and your partner so you can start experiencing more pleasurable sex.
Dr. Yafi is Associate Professor of Urology, Chief of Men’s Health and Reconstructive Urology, Director of Men’s Health and Newport Urology at the University of California, Irvine. His practice specializes in men’s health, erectile dysfunction, hypogonadism, Peyronie’s disease, prosthetic surgery, male voiding dysfunction and male infertility. Dr. Yafi has over 150 peer-reviewed publications and book chapters. He is the current Chair of the SMSNA scientific committee and co-Chair of the ISSM Consultations and Guidelines committee. Dr. Yafi earned his medical degree from the American University of Beirut, then completed his internship in General Surgery at the Mayo Clinic, his residency in Urology at McGill University in Montreal, Quebec and his fellowship in Andrology, Sexual Medicine and Prosthetic Urology at Tulane University.
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