Find Out How To Cum Slower In This Handy Guide

Odds are you've asked, "What can I do to cum slower?" Here are the top tips to not cumming so fast.

Dr. Laurence Levine
By Dr. Faysal Yafi Medically reviewed by Dr. Laurence Levine Last updated 04/10/2024
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Part of a healthy sex life is when intercourse is mutually beneficial both for you and your partner. Learning how to not cum fast can help with accomplishing that.

Various circumstances can sometimes kill the mood.

While erectile dysfunction seems to get the most attention in men's health, an equally frustrating issue is premature ejaculation or PE.

What's more, premature ejaculation is a bit more of a taboo subject than some of the other issues men can experience in the bedroom.

Quick FAQs

Luckily there are many methods used to help men last longer in bed. Some of these treatments range from products like Promescent Climax Delay Spray to exercises that can be practiced in the comfort of your own home.

While there is no one size fits all answer to this question. there are a number of factors that can play a part in premature ejaculation. Everything from stress and anxiety to diet and exercise can play a role in premature ejaculation.

It is more common than you might think. Roughly 30-40% of men admit to having a problem with premature ejaculation at some point in their lives.

Roughly 1/3 of men will experience PE at some point in their lives.

Studies show that between 30 and 40 percent of all men will experience premature ejaculation at some point in their lifetimes.

So how do you last longer in bed?

The good news is that there are various over-the-counter treatments you can purchase and techniques that you can practice to slow climax during sex.

In this post, we're going to take a look at a variety of tips and tricks to help you better control orgasm. Here's a look:

How to not cum fast

The answer to how to cum slower doesn't have to be a difficult one.

You can try out many things on your own or with your partner to better control ejaculating and bring more pleasure into your sex life.

We're going to cover various things you can try to prolong ejaculating in this section. Here's are some of the best tips to try or products to use:

1. Use a Delay Spray

desensitizing spray for men

If some of the other methods that we'll get to below fail to work and you're looking for near instant way to start cumming slower, using a desensitizing spray could be the answer.

PE sprays are, well,  exactly what it sounds like - it's a particular type of spray that you apply to the penis about 5-10 minutes before sex.

This spray contains lidocaine, a topical anesthetic that works to reduce the intensity of the signal to the local penile nerves so the man has more control.

The effect wears off after about 30-minutes to an hour.

2. Try Delay Wipes

Promescent delay wipes

These convenient PE wipes come in a small, condom-size, single-use package.

Like a delay spray, they're best applied to the penis about 5-10 minutes before sex. Unlike the spray, the wipes use benzocaine as the desensitizing agent rather than lidocaine.

While both provide a desensitizing effect and can help you last longer in bed, there are some differences worth pointing out.

Though wipes work similarly to sprays, one benefit that wipes exhibit is that they're portable, easy to tuck into a pocket or wallet, and more discreet.

Men don't need to wear condoms to prevent transference, as the drug penetrates the skin to where nerves reside. Be sure to wipe off any residual if oral sex is planned as Promescent has a bitter taste.

3. Try Practicing Kegel Exercises

Illustration showing the location of Kegel muscles in men

Kegel exercises, or Kegels, are perhaps best associated with strengthening the pelvic muscles in women, notably after pregnancy.

But many doctors say that men who exercise this muscle group can also benefit by lasting longer in bed by gaining better control over orgasm.

Some research indicates that Kegels can also help prevent erectile dysfunction or ED.

So why do Kegels have the potential to be so impactful in helping men last longer in bed?

It's because they help with muscle control, and it's primarily the muscle that's responsible for holding back ejaculation during sex.

For best results, it's recommended that men perform up to 20 kegel exercises in three to four sets each day.

One nice thing about working out the pelvic floor muscles is that it can be done without involving a partner, potentially saving any embarrassment from admitting premature ejaculation issues.

4. Try The Start and Stop Method (Edging)

The start stop method being represented by stop sign

The start and stop or edging technique is a method to avoid cumming that's studies show can help increase intravaginal ejaculatory latency time (IELT)

It's simple to do and can even be fun to practice.

Essentially, it involves having sex with your partner until you're nearly ready to orgasm and then stopping until you regain control.

It can be a fun way to spice things up in the bedroom with your partner as you switch positions each time you "stop."

Practicing this technique regularly can help you gain better control over your orgasms.

5. Try The Squeeze Technique

Iluustration of the squeeze technique to delay ejaculation

This is another technique that is best performed with your partner.

Here's how it works:

Your partner stimulates your penis - usually either orally, with their hand, or via intercourse - close to the point of orgasm.

As you near climax, your partner then gently squeezes the head of the penis until your urge to ejaculate begins to subside.

Like the start and stop method mentioned earlier, it's a method that helps you get better control over when you cum.

While the squeeze technique is more fun to practice with a partner, it can also be performed solo.

Watching porn and masturbating to the point of climax and then squeezing your penis head yourself is another option.

Be sure to do this before the ejaculatory reflex begins. If ejaculation is beginning, stop compressing the glans to not obstruct the urethra. 

6. Toys

myhixel male stamina trainer

If you last less than 2 minutes in bed and want to practice lasting longer with simulated sex, you could get toys like the MYHIXEL Male Stamina Trainer.

Think of it as a male masturbation device, as it's a tube that's essentially designed to mimic the vaginal canal anatomically.

It can even be temperature controlled, so it comes as close to the real thing as being in an actual vagina.

After receiving the product, download the MYHIXEL trainer app and start performing exercises to help you last longer in bed. It's a great way to train your penis.

Another toy that might be worth considering is a penis sleeve.

Penis sleeves are similar to a condom with regards to how you wear them on the body.

They fit snug and tight around the penis, so much so that they help reduce sensitivity levels.

This can lead to longer-lasting and more enjoyable sex.

7. Lots of foreplay

Couple enjoying foreplay

More foreplay can help men avoid cumming too soon by giving them more control and not trying to do everything so quickly.

Foreplay can also be a lot of fun and help you feel close to your partner.

8. Try To Distract Yourself

Fidget spinner distraction

You know what it's like when you're in the moment.

You're both breathing hard, your body is on top of (or under) your partner's, and you love feeling all the sensations involved in sex.

Yes, things get intense. But if you get too stimulated too quickly, you're going to be cumming before you know it.

One way many men settle themselves down near climax is by thinking about something that's not sexy. You know, grandma cooking, your locker at the gym, clothes shopping.

You get the picture.

Anything that helps you relax and calm down a little bit so all the fun can last.

9. Masturbate before sex

Lotion and toilet paper for masturbation

Partaking in a little bit of solo action in anticipation of sex later on, can help increase the amount of time you last in bed.

Think of it as a warm-up to the main event.

10. Professional help

Man talking to therapist about premature ejacualtion

If you believe your PE issues run deeper than anything that can’t be corrected with what we've discussed in this post, it can be helpful to book some focused time with a psychiatrist or therapist.

If the underlying issue is a troubled relationship, it may even be beneficial for your partner to attend these sessions with you.

Don't be afraid to ask for help.

11. Having more sex

Couple in bed about to have sex

Usually, cumming too quickly happens if a man or a couple has gone a considerable amount of time between intercourse.

It can lead to over-excitement, which can lead to intense sex and early ejaculation.

What's more, is the more sex you have, the more opportunities you have to experiment with the sprays, wipes, toys, and other methods we're discussing here to see what works best for you.

12. Prescription Medication

Prescription medications to last longer in bed

Most men often try some of the methods discussed above relying on prescription medication only as a last resort.

Antidepressants can help you cum slower, though they may also come with other side effects that may make them off-putting.

As we said earlier, everyone's situation is different, and if your situation becomes a significant concern, every man will find what works best for them in terms of dealing with it.

Medication may be a method that works for some men. Ask your doctor for advice.


Happy couple after man learned how not to cum so fast

Sex should be fun.

It should also be a very intimate way to connect and express your love with your partner.

And unfortunately, things like cumming too quickly have the potential to put a damper on both of these things.

The good news is that a variety of options are effective in delaying ejaculation to help you and your partner experience much more satisfying sex.

And as a plus, many of these options are very inexpensive to try.

From delay sprays and wipes to toys and other methods take the time to experiment with what works for you and your partner so you can start experiencing more pleasurable sex.

    Dr. Laurence Levine

    Dr. Laurence Levine

    Dr. Laurence Levine M.D. is a Professor of Urology and is in practice seeing patients and performing clinical research at Rush University Medical Center in Chicago. He has focused his practice on Male Sexual Health for the past 25 years and was President of the Sexual Medicine Society of North America. Dr. Levine is a graduate of the University of Colorado School of Medicine where he received his M.D and completed his training at the Harvard Program in Urology.


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