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Scissoring is probably a very evocative term for most people, either conjuring up a kinky sex act or a near urban legend.
The act of two women rubbing their vulvas together is a focal point of a lot of porn, but does it happen in reality?
If it does, do the people involved enjoy it, or is it merely a figment of the overactive sexual imagination of porn producers?
What does scissoring even mean?
Let's dive a little deeper into the mystery of scissoring.
No, scissoring can be enjoyed by anyone with genitalia
Tribbing is typically known as the practice of rubbing or grinding your vulva or clitoris against your partner. Scissoring is actual genital to genital contact with legs interlocked and facing each other
Start by sitting up facing one another with your legs slightly spread and interlocking and move towards one another until your genitalia are touching.
There are no risk to the act of scissoring itself, but it is still possible to contract an STI or STD so the proper safety precautions should be taken.
Scissoring (and/or tribadism) is a very real, very enjoyable sex act.
While it takes some practice and effort, you might find it becomes a welcome addition to your sexual repertoire.
The act of rubbing vulvas together for sexual pleasure is hardly a new one, but due to its mysterious nature and a somewhat higher degree of difficulty, it often goes unexplored.
And it's not just people with vulvas that can engage in scissoring; the act of rubbing genitals together is pleasurable no matter what types of genitals you own.
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You might be wondering "how does scissoring work", and that's mostly because the only places it's talked about -- or seen -- is in porn.
Unfortunately, persistent misunderstanding and mystery surround this sex act, preventing people from experimenting with it.
Does scissoring feel good?
Yes, it can be highly pleasurable and very fun!
So, if scissoring interests you, you should learn more and give it a try.
Let’s dispel some common confusion and myths so you can include scissoring in your sexual repertoire.
Scissoring is the act of getting into a position where your and your partner’s legs are spread out like scissors, and interlocking at the genitals so that genital-to-genital touching can happen.
The most common mental image this act conjures up is likely two lesbians rubbing their vaginas together, but it's critical to understand that:
The biggest hurdles to understanding and enjoying scissoring are preconceived notions of what it is, and being limber enough to do it.
Once you and your partners have explored and mastered scissoring, there are many ways to make it even more fun with toys, lubes, and different positions.
For a long time, scissoring was seen only as a lesbian sex act.
The concept of scissoring then evolved slightly as a sex position that only people with vulvas engaged in (whether they were lesbians, bisexual, pansexual, etc.).
The truth is that anyone with any genitals can perform and enjoy scissoring.
No matter your partner, orientation, or genitals, you can find some incredible pleasure in engaging in scissoring.
The terms "tribadism" and "scissoring" are often used interchangeably, and while it's not unreasonable, they are distinct terms.
So, while Scissoring is a form of Tribbing, not all Tribbing is Scissoring.
Like any other sex position, what feels enjoyable for each person can depend on so many factors, including:
Yes, scissoring CAN feel amazing if you both enjoy intentional, sexual genital stimulation.
When done correctly, and you’re both communicating what kind of contact, rhythm, and pressure feels pleasurable for each of you, you and your partner(s) can enjoy scissoring to orgasm, especially with regular practice.
For each couple, scissoring will feel different: two people with vulvas will obviously experience different sensations than a couple where one person has a penis and the other has a vulva, or a couple where both partners have penises, and so on.
For instance, vulva-on-vulva contact can stimulate multiple parts of the anatomy and trigger multiple types of pleasure and orgasm.
Penis-to-penis contact works similarly, rubbing in ways that usually don't occur during other types of sexual play, because scissoring can stimulate the entire shaft of the penis, but without penetration.
Penis-to-vagina scissoring can also include penetration, which adds another possible layer of pleasure, but penetration doesn’t have to be the end goal.
Two people with vulvas can also experience the feeling of penis-to-vagina scissoring by adding a strap-on dildo or sex toy to the mix.
By getting a bit creative with toys, the sexy possibilities are endless.
Well, tribadism is not unlike other forms of genital pleasure, and you can control the speed, angle, and intensity of the rubbing.
In this way, tribbing can be like masturbation but with a partner, who can also do their own thing and pleasure themselves while you get off.
They can also assist you with your pleasure and touch other parts of your body (like playing with your nipples or anus, for example), while you rub your genitals on their body.
If you're wondering how to do tribadism, you'll probably find it's easier than scissoring.
Just find a spot on your partner that feels good and rub your genitals against them!
Some people enjoy using their partners knees or thighs to rub their genitals against, because you can make out with your partner, play with their genitals and body too, or do whatever else you want from this position while pleasuring yourself.
Like oral or manual sexual stimulation, scissoring is just another form of sexual play.
You can change the pace, lube it up, and add sex toys of your choosing. It's all up to you and what type of stimulation you and your partner desire and enjoy.
While orgasm shouldn’t be the goal of any type of sexual encounter, you can orgasm from scissoring with practice, communication, and patience.
While the act of scissoring itself is not overly complex, asking your partner to try it and getting into position might be more challenging.
Find a comfortable spot with enough space for you to roll around in.
A bed is likely your best bet. And make sure there's nothing around you can knock over.
Learning to scissor, while fun, is trial-and-error, and you might end up kicking over a lamp if you're not careful.
When figuring out how to scissor with your partner, keep these points in mind:
Pleasuring yourself and your partner in new and exciting ways can boost your intimacy and connection, and discover new things about each other’s orgasmic potential.
The most common position is to start with both you and your partner face-up on the bed, with your legs spread slightly, and wiggling towards each other until your genitals are touching, legs interlocking.
At this point, you can do whatever feels good:
Any and all of these things can help make the process feel great. Keep working at it until you find a pace and spot that feels amazing for both of you.
What’s important is to communicate with each other about what feels good, and what each of you can do to improve the pleasure of the other person.
You might not be able to orgasm from scissoring, but if not, just enjoy the fun experience, connectedness, and sexy novelty of a hot new position with your partner.
Once you nail this move (pun intended), then you can try other variations of scissoring.
From the basic scissoring position, you can increase your intimacy by sitting up more so that you’re more face-to-face with your partner, and can then kiss each other and make more direct eye contact, too, as you grind and gyrate together.
This closer position also allows for exchanging pleasure to your breasts and/or nipples, oral stimulation of each other’s neck and ears, and overall more skin-to-skin body contact that can stimulate other non-genital areas of your bodies.
This can also be an easier position to maintain control over the speed and intensity of your scissoring, which can be more pleasurable for some people, and even help lead to orgasm.
If you’re feeling extra adventurous, you can also try to approach scissoring from a vertical perspective, with one of you on the ground (or bed).
The person who is lying on the ground would be placing most of their weight on their shoulders and upper back, while raising their hips up.
The other partner would stand between their legs, positioning themselves so that both sets of genitals are aligned and connecting.
Of course, this position might be more strenuous for both partners, but if you have the ability, strength and endurance, why not give it a try?
If scissoring sex positions are too daunting or physically difficult for you or your partner, you can try tribadism on another part of your / their body instead.
Tribbing against your partner’s thigh, knee, breasts, or other body part can feel fantastic, and is often easier to achieve than scissoring.
Whatever feels good for you -- go for it!
Now that you’re ready to get your scissoring sex on, there are some ways to enhance your and your partner’s pleasure, comfort, and enjoyment.
While you might be ready to just grab your partner and excitedly explain everything you learned while hopping into bed, you should consider these facts before pursuing scissoring.
The fact is, exercise and stretching help keep you limber, which in turn can make sex better, easier, and longer-lasting. The same goes for scissoring sex.
You don't have to do pilates or yoga every day, but some stretching before sex isn't a bad idea.
It doesn't even need to be strenuous - regular walking, biking, or swimming will keep your muscles stretched and ready.
Regular exercise and stretching can also give you the elasticity that makes scissoring -- and really, ANY sex position -- easier.
Taking a bit of time to stretch together can also be an intimate way to get into the mood together.
Your genitals will be touching your partner's genitals.
Fluid exchange is likely. And even if there’s no penetration, penetrative sex is not necessary for there to be a transmission of an STI or STD.
And if you and your partner find yourself at a point of penetration during scissoring, pregnancy could still be a possibility, if you or your partner are able to get pregnant and the other one of you can get someone pregnant.
It's not different from penetrative sex from any other position.
Also remember that if ejaculation has occurred before sex, precum can also have active sperm. So talking about the need for contraception is important, too.
As you would (and should) do with any other kinds of sexual positions and practices, it’s important to practice safe sex by talking to your partner about your STI and STD status, contraception methods, possible risks, and preferred barrier methods, all before engaging in any kind of sexual play.
Options for barriers can include using external condoms, internal condoms, and / or dental dams.
You can also try using an external condom or latex glove, cutting it open in half so that it is more like a sheet and covers a larger surface area between your bodies.
If you are sexually active and not in an exclusive monogamous relationship, then getting tested regularly for STIs and STDs is crucial.
Knowing your status is important for any type of sexual play and also a crucial part of your overall physical health.
The only 100% effective way of having 100% safe sex is just to abstain or have sex with yourself, but by implementing these above mentioned safer sex practices, you can know your risks and make more informed decisions for your body and your sexual and physical health -- as well as those of your partners.
Scissoring can be a fun, loving, wonderful, and extremely sexy way to pleasure yourself and your partner.
It might take some practice, but when you've got it down, you might find that scissoring can help you enjoy sex in a new and pleasurable way.
So go ahead, try scissoring with your partner, and enjoy yourselves!
Lexi Sylver is the Montreal-based erotica author of "Mating Season" and "All the Queen’s Men". She is also the producer and host of "Cocktails and Erotic Tales" as well as her "Swinging 101" webinar series. As an entrepreneur, advocate, educator, podcaster, public speaker and coach for ethical non-monogamy and sexual empowerment, she regularly contributes articles about sexuality and relationships to ASN Lifestyle Magazine, SDC.com and her personal blog, among other places. Her mission is to promote empowerment and education by guiding you to shamelessly explore your sexuality. Get Lexual at lexisylver.com
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Tribadism. (n.d). LGBT Info Wiki. https://lgbt.fandom.com/wiki/Tribadism
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