Typically, meditation is seen as an individual practice.
Whether you utilize mantras, deep-breathing techniques, or relaxing music, meditation is all about connecting to your inner self.
However, there is an alternative that helps bring couples together in a unique and tantalizing way: orgasmic meditation.
At first, this practice might seem quite unorthodox, but those who do it swear by its results.
Orgasmic meditation, or "Ohm", as it's referred to by practitioners, is a method of unifying sexual partners both spiritually and physically.
Plus, for recipients, it feels incredible.
Today, we're going to break down the core elements of orgasmic meditation, including how it works, its potential benefits, and whether it might be right for you.
Yes, orgasmic meditation is designed for couples only.
That is the great thing, as long as your partner is ready you can do it as often as you'd like.
No, in fact, even though orgasm is right in the name, the goal is not actually to cause an orgasm. However, this often does happen.
To properly perform orgasmic meditation you will need pillows and or blankets for the nest, lubricant, a hand towel, and a timer.
Although the term orgasm is right in the name, orgamic meditation (OM) is not focused on providing the same sensations that come from masturbation or sex.
Instead, OM's primary purpose is to enable both partners to feel intimate and close without having sex.
That being said, given the nature of OM, it's only natural for your partner to orgasm and for the experience to lead to intercourse between you and your significant other.
As with all forms of meditation, you want to go with the flow and find what works best for you.
Essentially, orgasmic meditation for women is the act of stimulating the clitoris for an extended period.
OM is designed to be a two-person operation, with one person pleasuring the other.
Again, the goal isn't necessarily to provide Earth-shattering orgasms, but it could be a delightful side effect.
There is a specific set of instructions to follow when trying OM.
However, once you master the basics, feel free to experiment slightly with your partner to find a groove that works for both of you.
To help ensure that meditation sessions are as relaxing and fulfilling as possible, you should build a "nest" of pillows and a blanket or yoga mat.
The recipient will lay on the mat, using pads to cradle her head and to provide comfort for the stroker.
Because OM lasts about 15 minutes, both partners need to be as comfortable as possible. The stroker should have their own pillow for sitting.
Other materials necessary include:
According to the Institute of OM, building and tearing down the nest is part of the ritual.
Again, feel free to embellish as you like to make the experience even more engaging.
For example, perhaps you can set mood music or light some candles to create an intoxicating aroma.
OM is meant to be done with the lights on as well, to encourage open communication between partners.
However, you may adjust the lighting to be softer if you like.
There is a specific way for partners to perform orgasmic meditation.
The recipient lays on her back with her legs spread apart. The stroker puts their left leg over her torso, with their right leg underneath hers.
This position allows for easy access to the vagina so that the stroker doesn't have to strain themselves during the session.
While you can do OM naked, the Institute of OM usually recommends wearing clothes.
This way, meditation is less about sex and more about the connection between partners.
The Institute recommends sessions of 15 minutes, including a two-minute "cool down" period.
Before starting, however, the stroker should describe what they see when looking at the recipient's vagina.
The purpose of this step is to establish open communication between partners and to remove any nerves or awkwardness that might occur.
The first time you try OM, it might feel a bit strange, but after a few sessions, the process will become much more fluid and normal.
Before starting, the stroker should also notify the recipient so that she's ready for contact.
A trick that some veteran OM practitioners do is for the stroker to start massaging the inner thighs on their way toward the vagina.
This sensation can ensure a smoother transition and help get the recipient in the right mindset.
To ensure a pleasurable experience, the stroker should put some lube on the pointer finger of their left hand and the thumb of their right hand.
As you'll see in the illustration below, the right thumb should rest at the bottom of the vaginal opening.
The left pointer finger will stimulate the upper left quadrant of the clitoris.
The reason to focus on this section is that it contains the most nerve endings, which will create the best sensation.
Strokes should be small and slow, particularly at the beginning. They should also be in an upward motion.
During the session, the stroker may speed up or slow down, depending on the recipient's reactions.
However, since orgasm isn't the objective, the stroker shouldn't be going too fast. This is a marathon, not a sprint.
Also, while open communication is crucial between partners, the session should be quiet to allow both partners to focus on the sensation and each other.
Another way to help forge this bond is to have other points of contact, such as touching feet.
Be sure to set the timer for both 13 and 15 minutes.
This way, you have a two-minute "cool-down" period to ensure that the session doesn't end too abruptly.
During this period, the stroker should switch to downward strokes, as well as slow their rhythm.
Once OM is complete, now is the time for "grounding."
This is where both partners come out of meditation and return to their normal states.
Since the clitoris will be hyper-stimulated, the stroker should press firmly on the recipient's vagina, using their whole hand. The stroker does this a few times.
Afterward, the stroker wipes the vagina with the hand towel or a Promescent before and after wipe, cleaning off any lube or other fluids that may be present.
If you choose to have sex after meditation, that's always an option.
However, the Institute of OM recommends tearing down the nest first so that there is a separation between OM and regular sex.
That being said, OM sex can be much more stimulating.
Although orgasmic meditation is not designed to be foreplay, it can work well to get both partners in the mood.
After meditation, some partners choose to discuss specific moments that stood out to them.
Communicating afterward can enhance the experience and make it more impactful for both partners.
While we highly recommend this step, although it isn't necessary.
First and foremost, orgasmic meditation is designed to feel good, so that may be enough reason to go for it.
However, there are some other tangible benefits that help both you and your partner.
While the experience is different for everyone, the most common advantages can include:
Most couples that practice OM report feeling happier and more secure in their relationships.
On an individual level, recipients might feel better overall, thanks to the rejuvenating effects of OM.
Since the practice provides sustained intimacy, it enables partners to focus on each other's needs and be more present.
In most cases, OM can lead to better communication, which is a cornerstone of any successful relationship.
Almost all forms of meditation can offer both physical and mental benefits.
By slowing down and focusing on the moment, you can help to control your blood flow, which may improves circulation.
With OM, if you do wind up orgasming during a session, there are plenty of health benefits related to that.
According to most studies, the female orgasm releases various brain chemicals, which can make you feel good and improve sleep patterns and anxiety.
Typically, after an orgasmic meditation session, recipients will feel refreshed and energized, especially if they climax.
Some couples may struggle to discuss their sex lives openly, even with each other.
Orgasmic meditation can provide a foundation for better communication between partners, leading to more satisfying sex.
OM strengthens the bond between partners, making them more comfortable with the act of physical intimacy.
Some couples will use this practice as a springboard for more open and potentially adventurous sex.
Because the practice can be such a new experience for both partners, it's natural to have questions about the practice and how it works.
We've compiled a list of FAQs below to help you determine whether it is right for you.
Be sure to talk with your partner as well so that you're both on the same page.
Yes, orgasmic meditation is designed for couples only.
However, if you want to meditate by yourself, you can do so with tantric masturbation or a yoni massage.
While the techniques are different, the objective is still the same; to help you connect with yourself.
If you're familiar with tantric sex, you know that it's focused on individual pleasure and self-acceptance.
Usually, tantric sex isn't about reaching orgasm right away, but about developing a deeper physical and spiritual connection between partners.
Tantric masturbation is the same concept, except you're exploring yourself and your desires.
There is no exact recipe to follow with tantric masturbation, so feel free to experiment as much as you like.
However, rather than trying to get off, the point is to allow you to look inside yourself and understand your body better.
If it helps, you can utilize the methods of OM but redesign them for solo practice.
For example, you can build your own nest and stimulate your clitoris the same way a stroker would.
Also, you can incorporate any other elements into the experience, such as music or aromas.
As long as you're trying to find yourself and not just get an orgasm, you're on the right track.
Although it's recommended for 15-minute sessions, this is not a hard and fast rule.
Talk with your partner to see what will work best for both of you.
In some cases, you might want to start with a shorter time frame and work your way up to 15 minutes.
In other instances, you might decide to extend the time. This time frame is more of a guideline than anything else.
However, we recommend starting there and then making any adjustments after your first session.
One of the best things about OM, and meditation in general, is that you can do it as often as you like.
As long as both of you are into it and want to continue the practice, there's no limit to what you can achieve.
The benefits of OM are immediate, and they can be cumulative, so feel free to have sessions frequently.
Overall, just communicate with each other, including any likes and dislikes about the experience.
From there, you can adjust your sessions so that both partners are as engaged as possible. In some cases, OM can become part of your regular routine.
Because OM is such a personal and intimate experience, it's different for every couple.
While the Institute recommends OM without orgasming or having sex, that's not to say that they are forbidden.
We recommend trying OM without sex or orgasm to see how it feels. For some women, such intense stimulation without climaxing may feel unfulfilling.
If that's the case, having sex afterward might be a good solution. The best thing is to approach this process with an open mind.
OM is all about discovery, both within yourself and your relationship.
Don't feel like you have to follow a rigid set of rules - you can make your own as you go.
Starielle is a Sex, Relationship & Intimacy Coach who specializes in working with men and couples. She has a decade of experience studying relationships, sexuality, evolutionary psychology, communication techniques, masculine/feminine energy dynamics & tantra and is trained in the Somatica Method. She holistically teaches skills for deeper intimacy by addressing the emotional, physical, sexual, and spiritual planes to empower individuals and couples to experience new depths of connection in their romantic relationships and broader communities.
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