Here are some tips on how to deal with premature ejaculation in a relationship. Use these techniques to help you and your partner have a better sex life.
Premature ejaculation, or PE, affects over 30% of men worldwide. Unfortunately, PE can also affect both partners in a relationship.
Problems in the bedroom may worsen problems outside of the bedroom. This guide will help you better understand premature ejaculation and how it affects relationships.
Premature ejaculation is typically defined as having an inability to delay ejaculation longer than one to three minutes.
It's important for partners to discuss how long they want sex to last, what forms of pleasure can occur after ejaculation, and what techniques they can try to prolong orgasm.
Premature ejaculation can potentially affect relationships by causing issues such as lowered self-esteem and decreased intimacy.
There are strategies that can help minimize any potential conflicts or anxieties. Plus, we’ll look at proven tips for overcoming PE that can help men gain confidence and stamina in the bedroom today.
There are four major types of PE that can affect men. Those four types are:
PE is mainly a problem when it’s a regular occurrence, as in the case of lifelong and acquired PE.
It’s important to talk with your partner if you’re suffering from premature ejaculation. Set a goal together of how long you both want sex to last.
It's also important to understand that sex doesn't end after ejaculation. While a man's libido may drop soon after an orgasm, they can still please their partner through:
By being open about PE, discussing it with your partner, and using this guide's tips, you can reduce the mental stress around it. Here are some tips to increase satisfaction in the bedroom for both partners.
Let's look at some of the most common and proven self-help techniques on how to help your partner with premature ejaculation:
The squeeze technique is when a man or his partner gently squeezes the head of the penis when he’s about to reach orgasm.
We have an article on the squeeze technique that provides more in-depth information about the strategy.
The start-stop method involves a man stopping sex when he feels like he’s about to ejaculate. When the urge to ejaculate passes, he can resume penetration. Repeating this technique can help with improving sexual stamina.
This helps to prevent over-stimulation, which can lead to greater stamina without sacrificing pleasure. Plus, the delay spray won’t transfer to partners when used as directed.
Some studies have found that kegels may help to increase ejaculatory control in some men.
Kegels can help to control and strengthen the PC muscles, which may lead to stronger erections and an increase in stamina over time.
To perform them, imagine you are trying to stop a flow of urine. A kegel is simply doing that movement, very lightly, a few times throughout the day.
To prevent an overly tightened pelvic floor, you can also perform reverse kegels, which are done by engaging the same muscle but while lightly pushing as though you are expelling a final drop of urine.
Practicing both can lead to a healthy and balanced pelvic floor, which may prevent and cure PE for some men.
Along with kegels, exercise and yoga can both relax an overly tightened pelvic floor and help to fight against PE.
There are some medications not specifically prescribed for premature ejaculation that may help men control their orgasm. A few we’ve discussed in-depth include:
According to studies, premature ejaculation can be highly negative for both partners in a relationship.
Some common and serious problems that both partners face include:
The man may feel like he's failing his partner, and both partners may be left unsatisfied, especially if all activities end after ejaculation.
In long-term cases of PE, there may be feelings of resentment if sex becomes consistently short and unsatisfactory. This can lead to feelings of resentment and disappointment from their partner.
This is why it’s crucial to find a solution to one's PE sooner rather than later.
There are many known causes of PE, and oftentimes, there may be multiple factors causing it for some men.
Here are some of the most common reasons for premature ejaculation known today:
Research has found stress and anxiety can make premature ejaculation more likely to occur.
If a man’s worried about pleasing their partner and not finishing too early, this extra stress on top of other anxieties may make PE a self-fulfilling cycle.
The PC muscles within the pelvic floor are activated when ejaculating, and for some men, their muscles may be overly tightened. This can lead to PE among other sexual dysfunctions.
Relaxing the pelvic muscles either through reverse kegels or with yoga that focuses on the hips may help to relieve this tension and help to cure PE.
Premature ejaculation can be challenging for both the person experiencing it and their partner. It may cause increased distress in a relationship if the condition is left untreated.
It’s important for partners to discuss what their expectations are with how long sex lasts and how pleasure can continue after ejaculation.
Through following the tips in this guide, couples can reduce the stress around PE and enhance intimacy.
From delay sprays to kegels, men and women can take control over their sex life and overcome the burden of PE today!
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