Wondering how to masturbate for women? This guide will show you how to get the maximum amount pleasure from your vagina.
Have you been searching for how to finger yourself on the internet?
Well, there’s certainly nothing wrong with that; a little solo play can be a lot of fun.
Most women masturbate, and often, so you’re not alone.
Plus, masturbating is good for you.
Check out a few ways masturbation is good for your health:
Masturbation also helps you get to know your body sexually, which could easily translate to the intimate times when you're with a partner.
We've got the deets on self-pleasure endeavors below.
First off, get yourself prepared for solo sex. There is no right or wrong way to masturbate—but those extra few minutes of preparation can significantly enhance the experience.
Here are a few tips on how to masturbate for women.
It's much easier to get in the mood and feel sexy if you're clean. So, take some time and enjoy a warm bath or a shower; maybe enjoy your favorite showerhead.
Pro Tip: For a quick on-the-go clean, try Promescent Before and After Wipes, which can be conveniently tucked away in your nightstand or purse.
Masturbation is you-time, and if it's not, it can be hard to pay attention and take your time.
A cell phone ding, a pet, and especially a kid screaming at you from beyond the bedroom door can totally kill your self-exploration efforts.
Get rid of distractions before you get started: turn off the phone, give the dog a chew toy, or steal a few minutes while the kids are occupied.
Most people with vaginas can produce their own natural lubricant, but it doesn't hurt to have a little moisture to get you started.
Try an Organic Aloe Lube or even incorporate a whole new sensation into the mix with a warming gel.
Turn on some music, light a scented candle, lower the lights, put on some sexy panties or lingerie, or watch porn.
Do whatever it takes to make yourself feel at ease and ready to explore.
Self-pleasure involves getting to know your body on a more intimate level. As you take time to explore and learn about masturbation, it helps if you know a little about the different parts of the female anatomy.
The vagina is a cavity of muscles extending from the cervix to the vulva. This is where you can find the G-spot.
Inside the vagina, along the front wall, towards the abdomen, you’ll find the G-SPot (Grafenberg spot).
Some women find G-spot stimulation intensely satisfying and can even ejaculate from it.
Conversely, others experience little to no pleasure at all from G-spot stimulation.
With a long-standing reputation as one of the most pleasurable spots on a woman’s body, this tiny pea-sized gland can bring vagina owners mind-blowing pleasure.
For the clitoris, start slow; there are 8000 nerve endings located there, so it will be extremely sensitive until the blood flow increases from arousal.
The vulva is made up of the labia lips, the vaginal entrance, and the outer parts of the female body.
Technically, the outer part of the clitoris and clitoral hood are part of the vulva as well.
The anus is basically the backdoor opening, a-hole, or anal entrance.
Even though anal stimulation is not for everyone, this is considered an erogenous zone and can be fun to explore while masturbating.
Pro Tip: Anal stimulation is one of the best ways to stimulate the A-Spot. Check out this article on how to play with your A-Spot.
Erogenous zones are like hot spots on your body that can incite sexual arousal or pleasure, even though these parts of your body may have nothing to do with your actual genitals.
A few examples of erogenous zones include:
With the preparations out of the way to set the mood and a crash course in the parts of the body to explore while masturbating, let's get into the actual "hows" of masturbation.
Clitoral stimulation could be deemed as the most common form of female masturbation. Most women can easily reach an orgasm just by clit stimulation.
Best of all, there are a ton of techniques to try when it comes to clitoral stimulation, with just your fingers or with well-designed sex toys.
Technically, Tribbing is vulva on vulva stimulation, commonly referred to as "scissoring" and part of girl-on-girl sex.
However, you can recreate the sensations during solo play with a lot of lube and an open-leg position.
Get your hand really good and lubed, slippery even—the slicker the better.
Lie on your side with your legs spread open and rub your open palm and fingers against your vulva and clit in a side to side or back and forth motion.
Also known as the "Scissor's Sisters" technique, you use two fingers in a V or peace-sign fashion to apply pressure to the area surrounding your clit.
Make a peace sign with your pointer and middle finger, apply light pressure, and then sort of wiggle them until you are slightly squeezing the labia between your fingers.
Clitoral hood rubbing is all about focusing on the soft mound of flesh just above the clit.
Apply a bit of pressure to the soft mound of flesh with your fingertips, heel of your palm, or even your thumb.
Rub back and forth, side to side, or even in a circular motion. Try different movements to determine what feels good to you.
Use either your fingertips or your flattened palm to gently press down on the clitoris or another pleasure point and then rub in a circular motion.
Switch things up by making small circles, and then larger ones, going at different speeds, or even circling in different directions.
Use your flattened fingers or palm to apply gentle pressure on the clit area or vulva, and then rub in a diagonal motion—some women even find that rubbing completely horizontally (side to side) feels good.
Just as it sounds, tapping involves using your fingers to tap on or around sensitive areas repeatedly.
Use your fingertip(s) to lightly tap on certain areas, such as the clitoral hood or the vulva.
This can be a good way to "wake up" nerve endings in the area or even "cool down" if you are trying to delay an orgasm.
Sex toys for clitoral stimulation come in every variety under the sun; whether you prefer a sucking one, a vibrating one, or something for just some fun friction play, there’s something out there for everyone.
A magic wand is a wand-shaped vibrator with a rounded silicone head. Women have been using these personal "massagers" for decades for all the right reasons.
Models and types can vary, but most offer variable vibration settings and some offer a bendable head.
Some women prefer shower masturbating, so a good shower head can be your incognito weapon when you need a little private self-pleasure.
Female arousal gels, such as Promescent Warming Female Arousal Gel, contain warming agents that will really get the blood flowing to your lady parts.
With all that increased blood flow comes increased sensitivity which means greater pleasure for you.
Use two fingers to work your way around the labia and vagina.
Squeeze, tap, and even rub with these two fingers around and near the vaginal entrance.
Lie with your legs apart and experiment with entry by gradually slipping in a finger or two.
Using a lubed-up toy or dildo can make it easier to reach, and you can practice entry from all kinds of positions.
The G-spot is on the front vaginal wall. Some describe it as having a sort of rough texture and being about the size of a walnut.
When stimulated, some women experience a G-spot orgasm.
Use a slightly crooked thumb or finger to rub the front of the vaginal wall until you find the spot that feels good.
This can be awkward because the angle can be hard to reach, but positions like the doggy position with your stomach down can help.
Toys with an angled head make it even easier to reach the G-spot.
The skene's glands are small ducts in the front area of the vaginal wall that encourage lubrication.
It is believed that when aroused, these glands become enlarged and can be stimulated to produce the fluids most often associated with female ejaculation. However this has yet to be proven.
When you're good and aroused, focus your fingers on the engorged areas that surround your G-spot.
Apply gentle pressure to the areas and pay attention to how your body reacts.
You may have heard of the G-spot, but every woman born with a vagina is also rumored to have an A-spot.
The A-spot is actually located slightly deeper than the G-spot inside the vagina.
You may need the help of a deep-reaching toy to hit the A-spot.
Much like the G-spot, the area is only accessible by reaching in and pushing outward toward the front of the body.
However, it is also possible to stimulate the A-spot through anal intercourse.
The Sybian is a high-end, ride-on adult toy with quite a reputation.
You actually straddle the Sybian, which has its own protruding dildo attached that can do all kinds of feel-good things like vibrate, rotate, stroke, or thrust, depending on the model.
These vibrators are designed specifically to deliver good vibrations to the sometimes hard-to-reach spot.
If you're into a little backdoor play, grab some good lube, your favorite arousing porn video, and maybe even a sex toy to take some time to explore.
Use gentle pressure using a well-lubed finger or two to tease around the outside of your entry. This helps to relax the muscles and get you in the mood.
After soaking a sex toy or finger with ample lube, enter slowly—a few centimeters at a time. Pause with every little bit you go in to allow the muscles to relax.
Anal sex toys are just as diverse as those made for vaginal or clit stimulation, so you can easily pick your personal pleasure tool to try according to whatever you're comfortable with.
Women who were born male can have a little added fun with the P-spot, which is actually the prostate that can be stimulated from inside the anal canal. Prostate massagers have a specifically angled head to hit the P-spot perfectly.
Rimming toys are designed to mimic the sensations of rimming, which is a type of oral/anal sex involving stimulating the anal opening.
Masturbation can feel amazing, is a great way to get to know what you like, and even comes along with health benefits.
Whether you're looking to relieve stress, experiment, provide better guidance to your partner during sex, or just have fun, female masturbation can be good for your sexual and emotional health.
When it comes to solo play, you have a lot of options to explore—from techniques and toys to sensations and positions.
Every new session is bound to yield new insight into what you like as a woman and maybe even make you feel a little sexy.
Dr. Rachel S. Rubin is a board-certified Urologist with fellowship training in sexual medicine. She is an assistant clinical professor in Urology at Georgetown University and practices at IntimMedicine Specialists in Washington DC. Dr. Rubin provides comprehensive sexual medicine care to all genders. She treats issues such as pelvic pain, menopause, erectile dysfunction, and low libido. Dr. Rubin is currently the education chair for the International Society for the Study of Women’s Sexual Health (ISSWSH) and an associate editor for the journal Sexual Medicine Reviews. Dr. Rubin has fellowship designation from both ISSWSH and the Sexual Medicine Society of North America (SMSNA).
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